first of all, my b/f's too old for this and I think taking it a step further. We've ben living togheter for a few months now, and slowly but surely he started to change, unlike before, now he ignores me most of the time, I try talking to him and I feel like I'm talking to myself, I might as well live with a regular roomate, its gotten so bad that I've ben considering just breaking up. Yet if he calls and he hears any guy or any laughing in the backround WHILE I'M AT WORK, he changes completely and tryes to b all lovable, and be extremely jealous, now he know I dispatch for nothing but guys, so he knows why there might b some around, I just dont get how cold he can be at home making me feel he probably doesnt love me anymore yet be jealous over dumb thing, can anyone just clarify that for me.
2007-03-14 12:12:12 · 9 answers · asked by sgsabs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a bit like a dog with a bone. While no other dog is around the bone can sit there and the dog wont really care. He's comfortable that the bone is pretty safe and doesnt have to do anything. So he can sit back relax and not worry about the bone at all. BUT, when another dog comes in and sees a nice shiny bone just sitting there the first dog that didnt really show much interest in the bone will suddenly guard the bone like his life depended on it. It's mine and you can have it.
Just like little kids with a toy...they dont want to share when someone else wants it, but while no-one is around then they dont care if it just sits on the floor gathering dust.
This isnt good for you either way being a bone or a toy, but you didnt ask what you should do about the situation. You just asked why guys do it. My advice though is (and Im not going to throw out the whole leave him now like other people) to talk to him. Maybe he doesnt know how he is behaving and what it's doing for you. But if you're not getting anywhere you need to look after yourself...
2007-03-14 12:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not being sensitive to you. You might need to site him down and have a serious conversation. No TV, no radio, no one else there, just you two face to face. Here's an outline to follow:
1. Let him know how you feel about him. Confirm the relationship and let him know you want to grow together in it.
2. Express you concern of the issue. Let him know you feel like "unlike before, now he ignores me most of the time, I try talking to him and I feel like I'm talking to myself"
3. Tell him how you feel. Don't mention the leaving thing.
4. Discuss the possible resolves together. Be sure to get some input from him.
5. Determine a specific resolve that you will try and specify when it will go into effect.
6. Reaffirm relationship. Let him know how excited you are about growing.
Note that it might be a healthy thing to consider steppig back a step and living seperately for a while. Don't stop dating . . infact, date more.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 12:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two can't do things together all the time just because you're living together, you both still need your own space, you have to admit if he was talking to you all of the time while you were trying to do things he might get a bit annoying...if you really love him, try talking to him and learn to do your own thing, but set time aside for the two of you to do things together. He may not realize how he has changed, so talk to him.
2007-03-14 12:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the comedian tale, if its some thing grimy he'd tell with the adult males he in all probability doesnt care as plenty, yet whilst he cares approximately her emotions and tells some thing much less racy, he in all probability does, till he's attempting to get an enhance out of her
2016-09-30 22:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably saw some red flags & ignored them before you moved in. sounds like he's possessive & doesn't know how to show you he cares about you. if he's this way now, it'll get worse if you marry him. and you can talk to him about it, but if he's just this way i'd question the relationship. why would you want to be with someone who treats you so coldly?
2007-03-14 12:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him!
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2007-03-14 12:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Discriminator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from eachother.
2007-03-14 12:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
2007-03-14 12:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by pnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to have sex
2007-03-14 12:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by hedwards4@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋