controlling moms?

Question

I am 28 years old and mother of 2 and my mom tries to control me and what i do. She never has a good thing to say and always brings up the past . I am trying to be a good mother and do good for my kids and she always brings me down

Answer 1

Stop talking to her for awhile, when she asks why she hasn't heard from you, tell her how you feel. Maybe then she'll get it.

Answer 2

You are overly grown do you mother pay your bills? Does she baby sit for you? The reason why I asked you that is because I know that is your mom but sometimes you have to let go of mothers to. You need to stay away from negative people. If your kids are witnessing this that gives the ok to talk to you the way that your mother is. Either stay away from her or let her know what is on your mind. You have to do what is best for you and your children!

Answer 3

The first thing that comes to my mind when I read Controlling moms? Is Virgie Arthur (anna nicoles smiths mother) or mommy dearest.

But to answer your question I believe you are trying to be a good mom and should keep doing what you do best, love your children. Our parents are not hand picked and they are not right just based on being our parent. If you have enough courage to tell her anything... tell her you love her you love your children and you want to have fun raising them....enjoying every minute of it. If she wants to share in the fun and laughter then she is welcome, but for you - you choose to only hear positive advice or ideas that are going to make these years not only fun to experience but fun to remember as well. Have fun with your kids!

Answer 4

I'm glad you see that it's your mom who has a problem, not you.

Make like a tree and leave when she says the least thing that gets on your nerves. Vote with your feet--don't invite her over so that she can't criticize your home, and make your visits to her short and sweet.

If you 'run into' her when visiting other relatives, say hi, howareya and find an excuse to leave without making it look like a rush job.

Have something else to do when she calls; tell her there's something you have to do in 5 minutes, then follow through and get off the phone in 3-5 minutes, tops.

Anyone who hasn't got something kind to say, gets the bum's rush from me.

Answer 5

You need to stand up to her and tell her how you feel. You are an adult and a mother yourself, you don't need to listen to her crap anymore. Tell her that the past is the past - enough of her bringing it up and let her know that you don't want to her put downs either.

Answer 6

Talk to her. Tell her that it's your life and if she really wants what's best for you, then let you handle your life.

You probably are a good mother so don't let what she says get to you. You know she's only trying to help you.

People really ought to keep the past in the past.

Answer 7

You need to sit down and talk to her. Tell her exactly what you have just said here. She may not take it too kindly but at least she will have the opportunity to modify her behaviour. If she does not, then tell her you need a break for a while cause she is killing your self-esteem, and do it, have a break. Good Luck

Answer 8

Wow. Sounds like she is evil. Hire a hit man.

Of course, if she is that evil, chances are you are evil, too.

Of course, maybe you are just telling us one side of the story.

PS. Controlling moms? doesn't become a real question just because you put a question mark at the end of it.

Answer 9

You're not alone. This tends to happen as moms lose their "babies." They feel as though they need to prove their parenting skills with their children's children. Talk to her about the negative vibes she is giving off. Chances are, she may not even realize just how much she is putting you down.

Answer 10

the best thing is to ignore her completely as if she is not around. dont answer her back, do what you want and just be a good mother to your children..

Answer 11

im younger with 2 kids and people used to try tell me what to do either ignore the coments or tell them how your feeling