Well, it happened. My ex girlfriend is dating. We just broke up 6 weeks ago. I knew this would happen eventually, and I'd never give her a hard time about it; I know I have no right to do that. It sure seems like she got over the whole thing awful fast, though. I'm dealing with all these emotions: jealousy, hurt, anger, even disappointment. How can I best deal with all of these chaotic emotions and feel better about the whole situation? How could she forget me so quickly?
2007-03-14 11:52:44 · 9 answers · asked by aquaman2964 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not thinking she 'forgot' you, she is just moving on. It is unrealistic for you to assume if you're beating yourself up about the breakup that she is as miserable as you (although it would make you feel better, somehow). You gave it a try and appearantly you weren't compatible. You did not say whether tthe breakup was casual or nasty, but it doesn't matter, time to move on to someone better, man! :)
2007-03-14 11:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by misteri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is never a fun thing. It hurst or at least bothers you even when it has been a while but after such a short time it's worse.
Are you really over her? If not then start with that.
Has she forgotten you? Probably not but it shouldn't matter because you aren't with her anymore. It could have been you who was with someone first. That wouldn't mean you forgot her. She just met someone first. Don't bother thinking about this point...because how she feels for you or what she thinks of you no longer matters. When you think about it make it leave your mind right away!!!
In fact, banish all thoughts of her from your mind. When she pops in make her leave. Get busy with other things, get out with people, do new things. Keep occupied.
Let the emotions come, think about what they are they tell yourself why they aren't needed.
Anger...no need because you aren't together anymore, she doesn't owe you anything. (nor do you owe her anything)
Disappointment...is it that she is dating or that you aren't dating.
Anyway don't spend much time there... move quickly to putting her out of your mind.
Good luck! And the sooner she is out of your mind the sooner you have room for a new love.
2007-03-14 19:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation, only my bf started dating TWO weeks after the break up! I am dealing with all of the emtions and sadness, and it stinks. It hurts a lot because we dated for a long time, he dumped me on our anniversary, he lied to me, but yet I still am like totally in love with him! And he told me he loved me three days before he dumped me... it's depressing but we will both pull out of this deep hole eventually. The best way to get over him is to vent your feelings so they won't just be locked up forever.
2007-03-14 19:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by maysimay2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts badly. I know.
The best way to deal with them is to feel them, unfortunately. Everyone says it gets better with time (mine's been three months and its slightly better!).
She wouldn't have forgotten you, but there was something not right in your relationship that she recognised, and thought it best to get out.
Its awful and I wish I had a magic cure for you. I really do. I wish I had one for me too!
2007-03-14 19:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's no use crying or feeling like that for someone who doesn't love you back or doesn't want to be with you. Everyone passes through that. What you need to do is take your mind off her. No use crying over spilled millk
2007-03-14 18:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by ღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could have the same feelings as you
and is thinking by jumping into another mans arms
it will make her forget about you faster
but that definitely does not work ha
2007-03-14 18:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by bob123456789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've definintley been there.....I know how that feels...it sux! Honestly though....they are probably just on the rebound...it probably doesn't even mean nuthin....try not to think about it too much...
2007-03-14 18:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by crazyrichgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to date again...even if it means taking another girl out to dinner and a movie and it doesn't end up being a romantic date.
2007-03-14 18:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by annie41378 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like you still had feels for her.... But you need to move on..
she did....
2007-03-14 18:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋