Is it wrong if my parents...?

Question

... threaten to cancel my hip-hop dance lessons (something that I work REALLY hard at and luv to do) if I forgot to turn in ONE SMALL homework assignment for this ENTIRE year, and am an A student, but they're punishing me by taking away my hard-worked-at, much loved dance lessons????

If you ask me, I think that it's really WRONG that they're doing this. I mean, punishment, i can sometimes agree with, but i don't understand why they can't just take something away from me like my T.V. or my ipod or my internet or something that i'm not basing my life on...( i really want to become a professional dancer), or take away something that won't matter but will still be a good punishment. That's what I don't get...

Parents, teens, people who are reading this, I just want to know your opinion of if what my parents is doing is bad or not. I REALLY care about my training for dance. I want to be really good at it.

i'm just confused...

Answer 1

It's holding you accountable.

If you want to keep going to hip-hop dance lessons, you have to do your work. End of story. Is that wrong? No. They are being responsible.

While I'm sure you love your lessons, your parents understand that school should always come first. If you mess up in school, no more hip-hop.

Answer 2

You said they threatened to take away your dance lessons. You didn't say they actually did it. At any rate, you have to admit they got your attention, didn't they? So, what have you learned? Don't miss any more assignments, right? Because your parents take it very seriously when you fail to live up to your academic responsibilities. So, what if they did say no more dance lessons? A friend of mine, (a doctor), stopped his son's tennis lessons because his son's grades and just barely slipped. The boy was beside himself. Couldn't understand how his dad could be so mean. Didn't he understand how important playing tennis was to him? Well, it wasn't the end of the world. The kid went on to ace his SATs. Do you know how hard that is to do? He then was accepted into Harvard Med. School on a full scholarship. And he is now a great doctor, just like his dad. Suppose the father had given in and said ok, your grades are good enough, You'll be able to make a good living when you get out of college. But I guarantee you it would not have been Harvard. Now, you're an A student. That's wonderful. Your parents are simply prepared to do whatever they believe is necessary to help you remain an A student. Because some day you will go to college, graduate and get a job, and they want the best for you. I applaud your parents, and some day you will understand the reasons for many of their decisions and now may seem too harsh to you.

Good luck to you Honey. And tonight when you say your prayers thank God that He blessed you with parents who have the courage to say no.

Answer 3

They obviously care about you,and felt that the lessons were starting to impact on your work,have you got long left at school? They might think this is the start of you going down hill? If you really want to keep them-the lessons then try to see if you can come to some sort of agreement. To see what happens in the coming year, or you will give them up then, or give up something else, or may be do something else like offer to make a meal week etc. All the best I do think it is a bit harsh when you are obviously a good student, but you have to be able to live with them-at least for the moment, so give compromise a go

Answer 4

You need to get your priorities straight. Your homework needs to be your main concern. Yeah, it's nice that you want to be a dancer, but your education is what will help you survive in the real world.

If your parents took away something minor like your tv or internet, you'd probably blow off homework again. They're sending you a message. They know how much you like your dance classes. As much as you want dance classes, they want you to do your homework. Hold up your end of the equation, and they'll be more co-operative.

Good Luck,

Answer 5

If you knew what the punishemnt was before the crime, then the parents are not in the wrong.They are just using your love for hippo dance to their advantage and yours.You may not be able to make a living doing hippo dancing, but you can with an education.Their making you do what you like least but most necesary to prepare you for your future, by using something you love the most as a punishment if you get slack.They do love you.

Answer 6

I am a parent, and when I punish my kids I don't take away stuff that is good for them. My kids still go to sport practices, Boy/Girl Scouts, music lessons, etc. I want them to be productive citizens when they grow up, and these other activities will assist me in that venture. But on the other hand, I have gone so far as to take their beds away and make them sleep on the floor. There is no law that says children have to have furniture.

Answer 7

Well, it seems a tad outrageous. But, maybe they don't want you to base your life around hip-hop. It's a hard life to be a proffesional dancer. And not turning in this homework must have been more than you're making it worth, because normal parents wouldn't flip. Maybe if you tried reverse pyschology, like, "I don't really liek hip-hop anyway, but I love my TV."

Answer 8

As parent's we have to joggle lots of things in one day. So for our kids as you get older we expect the same if not more from our kids. Some times we forget that you aren't our PERFECT little angels. I'm only 23 and my son just turned 5 but I catch myself doing that already to him. Because I want him to be more than I was, am or ever will be. So I can say I raised him like that. With pride. You know?

Answer 9

Hon, I would sit down with your mom and dad and tell them that you realize that you dropped the ball with the homework assignment. Tell them that you are sorry, and that you work hard to maintain good grades. Also tell them that you won't let it happen again. Then tell them how much dance means to you. Leave your emotions at the door, and talk to them like an adult. Hopefully, they will see your maturity and reconsider their rash decision. Good luck, hon!

Answer 10

In this situation everyone can think that parents are doing wrong with us but they never do anything wrong for us because they always think about our benefits. i agree that they are so strict with you but when u will became parents then u will realize whatever they telling you was right. And you should obey your parents.