I'm only 17 me and My boyfriend have talked about having children. and we both want a baby and believe we are ready.. I know ppl are thinking what about ur parents.. Well I havent lived with my parents since I was 16. I've raised my cousin and my best friends baby so I Have plenty on experince but he wants to wait till after I get out of school.. should I wait or jus go with what i want? which is a baby RIGHT NOW!
2007-03-14 11:31:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have to applaud you that you want to have a baby already. However, I feel that it's best to have one after you finish school. It's hard work and if anything happens to your boyfriend that he cannot work and support the family then you may have to pitch in. It's hard to find a good job without an education. Also when a good job, you'll probaby get good benefits will help you take care of the baby.
I was 30 when I had my baby. I wish I had my baby sooner, but if I had it as young as you, I wouldn't be able to give her as much as she deserve. I wanted to ensure that if I was a single mother, I could still give her the best. I finished school, got a good job and now have great benefits that helped me provide for my daughter. If my husband and I split, she'll be taken care of.
Good luck, but please wait at least until you finish your schooling.
2007-03-14 11:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_cincin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say finish high school because it would be hard to do that when you have a child. I am a young mom (21 when I had my son) and I still trying to get through college and it is real hard to take all the classes I need because I don't want to leave my son too long with a baby sitter.......and studying is out of the question. I love my son and he was planed but there are times when my friends are going out and having a good time and I am at home with him kinda wishing I could go. So you need to think about that. You life will totally change after you have a baby. It is not about you anymore it is all about your child. I am sure you have heard this a billion times ( if you talk about having a child) but kids cost money and it can start to be a lot after a while clothing diaper food shoes ...everything = $$$ So you and your boyfriend need stable jobs it is so stress full when money is not coming in and you worry about what is for diner. I was that way before I got preg. and I never want my child to have to go though that. So you are the only one to make that decision but please please please think it over!!! and do what is best for your life.......you can always have a child but your childhood will be lost if you do things too soon.
2007-03-14 11:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by punkmommy-2-1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 16 with a baby... never finished school... got pregnant at 15...
i think you should finish your schooling... you wouldnt want to leave your baby with a day care... im a stay at home mom.. i live in germany my husbads in the military.. and also.. you need to make sure your boyfriend is going to marry you for one.. and 2 you have a good enough suport system to raise a baby.. thats why my husband joined the army.. is so that we'd have the money for us and the baby.. free houseing..
i would say..... you can start trying to have a baby a couple months before your going to graduate so it would already be on its way.. and you would be finishing school... and all you wanna do when your pregnant is rest... you dont wanna be going to school with crappy pregnancy symptoms...
good luck girl!!. i love being a mom... as young as i am.. just make sure you got everything going good before somethin happends..
2007-03-14 11:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by skizzythaklown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait because if you don't, you may have to raise the baby on your own. If your boyfriend wants to wait and you don't wait, then chances are he'll just walk out on you and the baby. I was the same way as you are now, I wanted a baby badly and didn't want to wait but my boyfriend wanted me to wait. I didn't wait and when we found out I was pregnant, he walked out on me, we broke up. I had to raise my daughter on my own, with the help of my family.
You may have plenty of experience raising a child, but believe me it's harder raising a child when you're doing it alone. I really think you should wait, it's not always about what you want.
2007-03-14 12:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by babygurlt2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school first! Get a place of your own, a secure job, a new vechile and then start worrying about having a family, you can't depend on other people to help you out all you life!
AND SOME MONEY IN THE BANK YOU WILL NEED IT!
2007-03-14 11:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by TM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finish school,go to college,get a job,make some $ to take care of a child.How in the world do you think you could provide for a child?Be realistic not romantic about a child,they are 24-7 needy,food,cloths,diapers,shelter,more diapers,food,clothing cha ching, do you have money to take care of a child.Or will you depend on welfare,housing,foodstamps.Thats not being a parent,if thats the plan.
2007-03-14 12:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should finish school first. I am pregnant and in school and it makes it hard on me to get up in the morning. Being around so many people makes me have mood-swings out the ***, and you don't get enough to eat at school. Hope this helps you.
2007-03-15 04:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should finish school first. That way you will be able to get a job that can support your baby.
2007-03-14 11:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by vgleason_102301 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it
2007-03-14 11:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by JenN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋