Husband & fake military orders?

Question

I'm going to a lawyer to discuss divorcing my cheating husband who's denying he is. I think it's one of his coworkers in the military. He's sending me & our son to live w/my parents to "save money", etc. We live in an apartment & our lease wasn't going to be up until May. When he first told me his idea for us to move I asked how b/c the lease. He said he could get fake military orders to be stationed somewhere else & has to go. He said people try it all the time but the people never follow thru. But he smiled & said he's got the hookup, the better hookup. I went to the office of our apartment & got a copy of the orders. Now I have a copy of fake military orders saying he's going to another state & it's signed by him & someone else(pretty sure a girl's kind of handwriting-initals & last name are typed also) I want to expose him for what he's done to us..obviously cheating & lying. I wonder if the girl is the mistress. Can the fake orders get him in trouble w/the military?

Should I use it against him?

I do have evidence of adultery so why do people act like I am the mean one? When a husband or wife cheats they are potentially putting their spouse's life in danger so I think I have a right to be mad. And he's the one that is misusing the government not me! Don't you think they would want to know what one of their own is doing? If he did this what else could he do or be doing?

Answer 1

I would only act on it if you think the divorce is going to get ugly. I mean, coming up with forged orders to get out of a lease is pretty reprehensible, if you ask me. It says something about his character. Is he going to use the same kind of shady tactics during your divorce?

If he's cheating, he probably won't make things hard for you. (That's my guess, anyway.) If that's the case, then don't dirty your hands with it. Just move on and do what's best for you and your son.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Oh yeah he'll get in trouble. A good friend of mine has an idiot for a husband. When he was shipped out for a few months she'd forgotten to take a movie back to blockbuster. Well she found it about the time she was billed 250 bucks for it. Her husband sent a letter to blockbuster explaining the situation but instead of signing his name he put his CO's along with a phone #. Well they called, he got busted, lost rank (just as he was to be getting promoted) lost the duty station he was about to get, and when he was eligible for reenlistment they said no (this was after 13 years of service and this was also only about 3 years ago when they've been hurting for people) So my advice would be this....don't turn him in for this because it will hurt you and your son in the long run. But I would dump his sorry butt and then get your child support etc. And I would let him know that you know what he did and have proof and that you now have him by the balls so he better not mess with you and had better pay for his kid.

Answer 3

The military does not look kindly on that sort of thing. I come from a military family. What you need to consider is this...If you turn him in and he gets a dishonorable discharge he will play hell ever getting a descent job again. And if you are divorcing him I'm sure you will want child support.
So before you do something as rotten as he did to you think about it long and hard. And remember that Karma works. He will get his, but if you are the one to give it to him, then you should watch your karma.
Good luck.

Answer 4

The first thing you need to do is find out the truth. If he really is cheating - there could be something else going on. Being in the military is stressful for any marriage. If you still love him - then try to work it out for your sake as well as your sons'. If there is nothing there then move on, but don't burn bridges with your husband - regardless of your relationship with him he is the father of your son & you will always have to deal with your husband. God Luck & God Bless.

Answer 5

No, please just take your loss and move on. It is his resposibility to deal with what he is doing, and you are going to get dragged in if you're not careful. Remove yourself from him and do not pay forward any anger if you can avoid it. It would make you the better person if you manage to avoid the trap of being just as nasty as he is... you could send the form to the military if you want to, but I would certainly do that only if you are prepared to go all the way. Have you ever done anything wrong yourself? I do not say he is right, but I say you can do better and deserve better too. What do you gain by pursuing this? Only more grief and anger and loss of time effort and money. Steer yourself to a new path if you can!!
Because then the benefit is for you and no one else.
Good luck:)

Answer 6

If he's cheating on your and you have proof you can get him in trouble with his command for that. You have to have proof, don't call the command just because you THINK he's cheating and give them a hard time. If you have proof...pics, e-mails that sort of thing. If you have proof it's with another person in the Military that's double trouble.

Your Husband was trying to save you some money onrent and thesort, Remember if he doesn't have a job YOU don't get child support/alamony...if you bring this up he will be kicked out (most likely) thus having no job, and a Dishonorable-Discharge will force him to get a job at mc-donalds or the sort. Also it will look bad upon you as well since you obviously went along with it....QUIT TRYING TOBLACK MAKE THE GUY!!!!!!

Answer 7

I doubt he will get in any kind of serious trouble with the military... of course, they look down on any kind of fraudulent activity, but since it really doesn't concern them, he probably won't face any kind of serious action. If you really want to screw him over (kind of sounds like you just want to do something to get back at him), you could always tell the apartment complex about his scam. They would contact the unit, who would tell them that no he doesn't really have orders... then I suppose the apartment complex could pursue some legal action against your soon to be ex... but I'm not really sure. Also you would want to be careful if your name is on the lease... don't know how that would work.

I'm sorry about what is happening, but I don't think that pursuing this will help you any. Sorry.

Answer 8

It absolutely can get him into trouble. If you take the paperwork to his command they have a responsibility to look into it. But I must warn you, if his command like him, they will lie to you and do nothing. I wouldn't give the paperwork to the the landlord. IF he wants to fake orders, let his hands do the dirty work. The landlord if they found out that the orders are fake care press the issue.

If you've been married longer than 10 years you pretty much are entitled to half of everything. I would caution that if he gets in trouble for adultery and fraud paperwork. The consequences could mean that he get kicked out, loosing his rank and taking away some of his pay. If you want child support, and alimony these are things that you need to take into consideration.

If he wants to be with someone else, let him but I wouldn't let him get off easy. Get what you can get monetarily. Don't let him talk you down. You're entitled to child support and the military will make sure that he pays.

Answer 9

Well you will never see "child support" as if he did such his career is over "toast", sorry.

You need an attorney not just for your situation, for your kids,
also be aware that if he is "tossed out" it is difficult to get his pay when he is un or under-employed, think of the kids.

Joe Doc

Answer 10

Actually it is done all the time in the military . Not because of cheating. I think you might just be trying to find a reason to get him in trouble with you and it really has nothing to do with the government. Men have the same type of handwriting as women. Get a clue.