My wife grew up in a very religous environment and is very reserved, where I grew up being very open about sex and wanting to try many things I was interested in. How do we bridge the gap to find a happy medium?
2007-03-14 11:31:00 · 11 answers · asked by Murray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk about what she wants to do.... about what you want to do.... find out what about you excites her..... why did you get married/fall in love? what does your relationship mean?? see where that takes you - becuz your relationship should satisfy both of you
2007-03-14 11:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Zuri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's really a tough bridge and gap. But somehow you have to open her up to try new things, and spice up the sex life. Climb into the shower with her sometime and sex it up from there :) Shower sex is great! While you're on the bed doing the same ol' same ol' roll into a different position and just go with it. Goodluck!
2007-03-14 11:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People really into their religious beliefs tend to be hung up, sexually. They feel things are 'dirty' or whatever. If you are married, this is rediculous, on her part. SHe needs to get over whatever mental block is up there, and have some fun! Seriously! :) I mean, there is nothing more fun and beautiful than two people that are totally committed to each other (as in marriage) just letting it all go and literally becoming one. Girl, have some fun!! ;)
2007-03-14 11:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by misteri 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably feels a little guilty if she enjoys it too much because of her up-bringing. Yo need to make it more about romance and love.... get her to relax and make it all about her...until she completely feels at ease...her desires will come to the surface but it will take time.
2007-03-14 11:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand both sides of the spectrum because i grew up really reserved but married someone who isnt at all.
just try to make her feel comfortable. talk to her. i think it will eventually come out of her, because i think sometimes when we grow up in extremely religious or conservative backgrounds its viewed as wrong to be freaky or whatever but i think it will eventually come the more she is comfortable with herself and comfortable with her body. just continue to be her support system.
you'll be fine.
2007-03-14 11:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Queenly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Doris Stokes
2007-03-14 11:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by Britsrule 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let her do with you what shes comfortable with, let her know your willing to wait until shes ready, and talk to her about trying new things, but let her be comfortable first.
2007-03-14 11:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by punky28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife needs to become less sexually
different than you...
She should slowly loosen up as you continue to be
sexually open with her...
2007-03-14 11:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there has to be compromising in a marriage. talk to her and negotiate; see how far she is willing to go with you.
2007-03-14 11:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking... you should just sit down and talk and see what both of you can do to break that barrier
2007-03-14 11:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by Wenke_91 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋