My bf is 16 and I'm 17. We've been together for a 1yr and a half. He lives across the street, we ride the same bus, go to the same school, and even have some classes together.
The thing is, for the past half a year he's been a real jerk keeps saying he'll change but he never does and I always go back to him. He makes me cry almost every day but when I break up with him...the next day at school he follows me around apologizing with very convincing stories. I always run back because I don't know what to do. It hurts me to just ignore him and I love him and I think he loves me but things are so bad. He doesn't even make a lot of effort to get me back. He acts mean sometimes while he's trying to call me back and apologize or something. How do I stop this? I wish that he would just change so we could be happy but that's not happening. What do I do? You all have NO IDEA how HARD it is to leave this guy. I know it's for the best but its SO HARD.
Please help im tired of cryin
2007-03-14 11:14:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It ISN'T hard! You said yourself "he doesn't even put that much effort in to getting me back" - woman, have you no value for yourself?
The first thing you need to do is to realise that YOU ARE WORTH better than he is giving you. He's dealing you crumbs to keep you hanging around in case he changes his mind - you need to find someone who will bake you the whole cake (as cheesy as it sounds).
Please, for your own self respect, don't let this clown mess you around any more. You CAN do it - I know you can.
2007-03-14 11:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well I know you'll get this a lot but the best thing to do is dump him and leave him. I've loved someone so much too, I know how you feel but here's a good motto for you and you can tell him you're living for this one now " Wait for the guy who will do anything to be your everything." that's the best way if he wants you back then he needs to change for you. It doesn't sound like he deserves you because obviously he says he's gonna change to make you happy but that doesn't mean he's going to! He sounds like a jerk to me sorry if that's rude.
2007-03-14 11:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kelsie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I snapped both bones in both forearms in a dirt bike crash about 10 years ago. My bike bogged out on the jump, so it didn't propel me all the way to the landing ramp. Nose-wheel hit the back of the landing ramp, so I went from 30mph to 0mph in 0 ft. I braced for impact by clutching the grips tight, which ultimately was what made my arms snap. Left hand touched my left elbow at one point (which I'm oddly proud of). Right forearm was at a 90 degree angle. Looked like i had two elbows. Still gives me the heebie geebies thinking about it lol
2016-03-28 23:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are talking about. i understand what you are going through. the good times are so good, but the bad times are just horrible. even though my ex-boyfriend made me cry my eyes out, i still went back many times because i thought that there is still that little bit of hope, hope that he will change, hope that he will do the things he says he will. i thought that maybe if i could just change myself, be more understanding, listen a bit more, that would make things better. believe me, i tried. it would be good for a couple of days and then go right back to being the same way it was before. it just got to the point where i was blaming myself for everything that was happening. yet deep down, i already knew i was blaming myself for the sake of making him happy. i just wanted to make him happy. finally i just had to draw the line. i got tired of compromising my own happiness. tired of trying so hard and not getting nowhere. tired of trying to make things better when they were not. i came to the conclusion that i didn't lose because i gave up, i gave up because i already lost. it was a losing battle from the begining. all my efforts went down the drain. i needed someone who would see me for me and love me for me. don't get me wrong, i still love him with all my heart and i will always remember the good times, but i just had to let him go. it hurts, but only for a while, eventually it will fade. life goes on and one has to make the best of it. this is my story. i think you deserve someone who will love you with all his heart and treat you with the way you deserve to be treated. you should not just have to settle. i think you know what is best for yourself, but i do wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-14 11:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by belle t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*sigh* well obviously most of the answerers have never been in your situation, otherwise they wouldnt be able to say what they are. yeah you may wanna breakup with him, but when you see someone you love everyday, trying to convince you to come back, its hard to say no.
if you can muster the guts, your best bet is to tell him y'all are absolutely over. whenever he tries to talk to you, walk away and go with your friends. ask a friend if they can tell him to leave you alone so that you dont have to. as mean as this may sound, get another guy (you dont have to like him) to pretend he's into you, maybe your bf will get the hint to back off. good luck.
2007-03-14 11:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him its over and let him know that you've had it. Because you've been going back to him each time, i think he's gotten used to easily being able to take you for granted. It seems like the relationship is going no where.
If you want to break up with him - just do it and then don't feel bad. If you really must feel bad - feel bad for yourself for putting up with his nonsense for so long. No one does that unless they're wearing handcuffs.
Be a GRRRL!!
2007-03-14 11:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Zuri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me I know exactly what ur going thru, going thru it now. All I can say is that u should talk to him about how u feel in a nice way. it might work, but for me it's not. good luck.
2007-03-14 11:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by kjcs_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to follow him and find out what's going on next time, if he's not doing anything special, than, break up with him!!!
2007-03-14 11:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crying because he is a jerk or are you crying cause your nuts....??? sounds like the second one to me.... if he treats you like a jerk.. dump his ars.... ( ^ ) or he will get what ever he wants from you... he can dump you anytime then go back out with you anytime he wants cause he knows he can....
2007-03-14 11:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by evilwhalen2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't love him at all and find someone new.
2007-03-14 11:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋