She is with someone else now. I guess it really is bugging her that I wont forgive her for breaking my heart. My question is if I let go of my anger and forgive her, will this improve my chances of getting back together with her someday. I know some of you will say to move on, yes I'm trying, but just answer the question please. Thank you.
2007-03-14 11:05:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you thank her for the good you had together and be truly grateful for the time you shared? If you keep focusing on your anger, you're just poisoning yourself. She can never come back to you if you carry that anger. And no one else can come into your life if the space for a relationship is filled with your ex.
2007-03-14 11:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a lot more complicated than that. But since you just want an answer, then yes. A relationship won't last if you can't love the other person, and you cannot love if you cannot forgive her. Anger and resentment will taint everything you do and feel. Been there. Done it. Learned it the hard way. There will be no joy in that relationship and it will fail. So yes, you have to be able to truly forgive before you can even have a chance at a relationship.
2007-03-14 11:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgiveness will open up a lot of new windows for you. Not only will it help you in the healing process of mending those wounds that she has given you, and ultimately it WILL increase the chances of you two getting back together. If you were still angry with her it would be unlikely that she would consider getting back with you. However, if you've forgiven her there is definitely a higher chance. I think you may find, however, that once you've forgiven her, you'll be able to move on and you won't worry about getting back together with her. She broke your heart, and she doesn't deserve it back unless there is ample repentence for what she's done to you.
2007-03-14 11:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It more then likely will b/c even if she doesn't want to get back together with u now she might want 2 after she breaks up the the other guy. So go ahead forgive her
2007-03-14 11:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forgive her so that you can release that from your own heart, not forgiving someone (holding a grudge) can eat away at you as time goes on.
Forgive her as best you can/know how, it will free you up inside to be free of it.
Will it help you get back together? No idea, but you will feel a bit lighter inside when you have forgiven her for what she did.
2007-03-14 11:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want her back, then clearly you must have already forgav her. forgiving her formally wont really help much if shes already with another guy. ive been in your shoes (i think) and trust me as much as it sucks, keep trying. if forgiving her doesnt work think of something else. at somepoint either shes gunna realize that she really wants you back, or while ur chasing her some other girl falls in ur lap and you move on. remember your gunna live tomorrow with or with out her so just try to stay positive
2007-03-14 11:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by willo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know. I don't think you should forgive her unless you really mean it. Then it's up to her she may like you and come back, or she may have just moved on and gotten over it, it depends on the girl!
2007-03-14 11:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it won't increase your chances at all! She's moved on and if she's not droping any hints to get back with you- she won't! Srry, but it probably won't matter if you forgive her or not! You should tho, it will help you to move on!
2007-03-14 11:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lollipop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe! Sorry, every girl is different, but I'd venture to say "no", because girls are different than men in that area, we'd be more likely to take them back.....girls just want to have peace of mind.
2007-03-14 11:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by cobra427jah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely try and talk with her. And plus, she probably broke your heart because you weren't giving her love or something else. Well, I don't know. Just talk with her.
2007-03-14 11:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by R.E. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋