can depresstion be cured throughtbeing with another person?

Question

the past few years i was in love then my heart went down the drain after that moment and now i feel depressed so can that be cured by love from another person of curse i mean girls so can women make me feel good again

Answer 1

If it is true depression and not a sadness brought on by the breakup then It can make it feel better just like self-medication but it won't cure it. Love is intoxicating like alcohol and drugs and you can never be sure it's love when you are suffering from a mental illness. It usually tends to be fear of being alone which could forcce you into more relationships which will end and gradually make you more depressed for having had so many failed attempts at love. You need to work on yourself to be able to cure it. Be careful something i learned in my stages of depression from my counselor is that ...Only you can find your happiness, another person can't be your hapiness, they could only ever be an added bonus in your life. You need to find happiness in yourself... being around people can help the symptoms but it won't cure it.

Answer 2

If you are sad and lonely and miss being in a relationship it may help you if you found someone else. You will enjoy feeling needed and loved again.
But if you are depressed that's a different story. Being with someone else will only make you feel good for a few weeks and your depression will return and probably worse than it was to start with. I suggest trying to talk to a councelor a few times and see if that helps. Once you feel good about yourself again, then it will be time to try to have a new relationship with some one. Councelors are normal people just like you and me. They aren't as stuffy as you may have heard. Get a referal from your regular doctor or from friends and family so that you can find a good one to go to. They will listen to you and give you advice on how to deal with every day life and how to be happy again.
Hope that helps!!

Answer 3

Being with other people always helps especially if they are good, nice people that you can really call friends. The worst thing you can do when you feel down is isolate yourself, go out and look at all of natures beauty. A nice loving partner will make you feel good but at the end of the day happiness comes from within.

Answer 4

Well, depression in this case can be just a normal reaction to what happened to you. If it doesn't pass, then you need to find out why you can't have a different outlook. Other people can add to your happiness or sadness but they can't cure either. The answer lies within you.

Answer 5

No it never truly heals it, it may distract you for awhile because it makes you feel alive. I met this guy when I was severely depressed. I started going out with him and then he eventually came to live near me. Well it worked out for awhile, but I still would get into depressive episodes. He left me because he's a jerk, but I never got over my depression. It hit me full force when he left. You need to deal with yourself and feel happy with yourself before you can commit yourself to someone else.

Answer 6

Being w/somebody doesn't cure depression.It may just make u feel alot better.&,that's really the inportant thing.I mean feeling good about yur self.*

Answer 7

don't depend on another person to find contentment, happiness to cure your depression

Answer 8

Being with another person can make you feel good, but depression cannot be cured by being with another person. Nor can depression be caused by not being with that person.

Depression is caused by thinking negative thoughts.

In his book "You Can Be Happy No Matter What", Richard Carlson (who also wrote Don't Sweat the Small Stuff) says WHAT we THINK affects how we FEEL which causes our MOODS. Then the MOOD affects what we FEEL which affects our THOUGHTS. It becomes a vicious circle.

According to Carlson, most people think happiness is conditional and outside of themselves or expect that it is a fleeting feeling based on the events in their lives or their circumstances - they believe their happiness is based on what's going on in their lives, what's going on in the world, what other people do or do not do. They don't realize that their happiness is inside of them IN THE MOMENT.

According to Carlson, most people are unhappy because most of their thinking is negative. Negative thinking IN THE MOMENT leads to a negative feeling IN THE MOMENT which leads to a negative mood. Then the negative mood then leads to a negative feeling in the moment which leads to more negative thinking in the moment. Like I said before, it becomes a viscous circle.

The reverse is also true. Positive thinking in the moment leads to positive feelings in the moment which leads to a positive mood.

The trick is not to try to feel better or think positively, the trick is to think positive thoughts. When I feel down, I don't try to change what I'm thinking/feeling, I just DELIBERATELY start thinking positive thoughts about things I like. For example, when upset, I make myself think "I liked the movie Babel, Brad Pitt looked good in that movie. I like Oreo cookies, they taste good. I like Bette Midler's song The Rose, its pretty." It sounds stupid, BUT IT WORKS. Within a couple of minutes my mood is lifted and I FEEL BETTER.

When you were with your girlfriend you were thinking positive thoughts about her and that made you feel good. Now that you are not with her you are thinking negative thoughts and that is what is depressing you. Having another girlfriend might make you feel better for a while, but taking control of your thoughts will make you feel better for the rest of your life.

When you start to think or feel negative, STOP THINKING ABOUT WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING and DELIBERATELY start thinking about things that make you happy. You have to make a deliberate effort. I just say things to myself like "I like the song Forever Young by Rod Stewart, I like chocolate chip cookies, I like the movie French Kiss." By changing my focus I immediately change my feelings and then my thoughts automatically go back to positive. You might also want to make a "Happy" list and carry it with you for those times when negative thoughts/feelings get the best of you.

Or, if you're able, DO something that makes you feel good (like listening to your favorite CD).

In her book The Secret, Rhonda Byrne recommends starting your day (before you even get out of bed) by saying to yourself THANK YOU for all the things in your life you are grateful for. This is a great way to start your day in a positive mood. Like, "thank you for my warm bed, thank you for the roof over my head, thank you for ...whatever you are grateful for)