Should I withold the "nookie"?

Question

My man is constantly complimenting other women, even after I explained how much it bothers me and makes me feel uncomfortable. The situation with the flirting is on the heel of me finding him ALONE with his ex at his apartment (when he was supposed to be someplace else). Outside of what I view as his "huge need for feminine attention", he's a very good man to me and my children. My friends think I should withold the "nookie" for a while to show him how much I'm hurting. They say this will allow him to feel hurt without me doing the same things he's doing. Do you think an action like that will really make a difference? I don't, but maybe I'm just WRONG. Let me know what you think!

Answer 1

Withhold the nookie, permanently. Lying and being found with an ex is grounds for a solid excommunication from the church of you.

This dude sucks.... I know you want to stick with him but I promise you if he's sneakin like that and throwin compliments to other ladies, you need out. He wants his dick in someone else... withholding your "nookie" is just gonna make him go for other girls harder.

Answer 2

It's funny that you say basically he is a good man aside from the fact that he can be a creep. Creeps are NOT nice men. And you have kids that are in the middle? Why would you give 'nookie' at all unless you are married? It's not all about you anymore. You have kids that deserve all of you. You gave up your rights when you had kids. They should come first. I am not just talking. I have been divorced almost 2 years, and have not had sex once since the day he moved out. Is it hard? Sure is. I was married almost 15 years. But guess what? It isn't about what I want anymore. I have 3 boys, 2 are teenagers and it is up to me to be a good example. I will not get in the middle of the kind of mess that you describe because I am keeping myself out of that situation.

Do the right thing by your kids and give up men until they are raised. It is not impossible and you will not die from not having sex. You might even discover the wonderful world that is not revolved around men.

Go ride bikes and be your kids' mom. I am.

Answer 3

You shouldn't listen to your friends on this one, withholding the "nookie" will only give him the push he needs to actually cheat on you. I feel like your boyfriend is truly pushing the limits and I would even go so far as to say he doesn't wanna be in this relationship. What's the point in him complimenting other women in front of you? Why does he ignore your feelings about it? Why the hell was he alone with his ex? These all seem like reasons why you should leave him and start thinking about finding someone else to give the "nookie" to

Answer 4

Lady, are you blind? You finding him alone at his ex's apartment! Withholding nookie is not the solution, because he will go out and get some! He has already lied to you about where he should have been, the question is, why did he lie? You say he is a good man to you and your children, jeeze! That doesn't mean diddly if he can't be trusted! Wake up and smell the skunk in the woodpile! Dump him!

Answer 5

Well, I don't know if that will work. I think it would possibly even give him ammunition to do it more. He might say, "Well, I have to get attention somewhere. And you certainly aren't interested in me. So I am just getting it where I can."
So I don't think that will work.
Let me tell you a story. First you should know that I have been married for 27 years and I am very happy. But, all marriages come with their ups and downs. And ours was in the beginning.
When we were young, he would go to "Titty Bars" with the guys from work. And this bothered me, but, what really upset me is her would do this and then come home and want to have sex. Which I guess I should be thankful that he came home to me, instead of picking up someone and going home with them. But, this would hurt me. And I told him repeatedly that I didn't appreciate it and it hurt me deeply and I would appreciate it if he wouldn't act that way anymore. And that I wanted him to stop going to the "nudie bars".
Well, of course, he didn't. He said he couldn't have the guys at work thinking he was "p___y whipped."
So I started saying to him, how would he feel if I started dancing. (In those days, I had a pretty hot body.) And he replied that no wife of his was ever going to do that. So I guess he figured it was okay for him to go watch, but, I couldn't go dance.
So one night, out of frustration, and wanting to get my point across, I decided to do something drastic.
Now, keep in mind, I was very nervous and scared, and by no means am I suggesting that you do something this extreme. But, I.........
showed up at the bar with a sexy black bra and panty, under my clothes. When I got there I spotted his table from afar. I walked up when the next song started and proceeded to start to strip right in front of him. I was running my hands through his hair and looking sexy at him as I stripped. Then I got on the table and started to strip and dance and the guys he worked with started putting dollars in my bra and underpants. (Some of them hadn't met me before and didn't know I was his wife.)
Anyway, he damn near ripped me right off the table. And tried to put my clothes back on, or at least cover me with them.
The guys he worked with were hooting and hollering and were saying, "Don't cover her up. She's awesome, let her dance."
Then he told them who I was and they said that he was stupid being at the bar when he had me at home.
Anyway, he never went to one of those bars again.
And now, he is hot for me all the time. Always groping and touching. And pays lots of attention to me......to this day.
And I am older (45) and bigger. And he says I am more sexy today than I ever was.
Anyway, all I am saying is that maybe you have to make the punishment fit the crime.
Do the same thing back in a sense.
Don't flirt with men openly to the other men, but, make comments about the other men to him. And be graffic, that's what men understand, so don't hold back. Think of the most sexual thing that you can say about the guy. Like what a huge package he has and how you always wanted to know what it was like to be with a man with such a huge package. When he protests and says his is huge, say that it's not as huge as the other guy. Things like that.
When he finally asks why you are doing it, then tell him the truth. Ask him how it makes him feel. And then tell him that is how you feel when he does it to you.
Men have to have a visual and a shock sometimes to get things. They can't help it.
Even the good ones can't have blood in both heads at the same time.
Sometimes we just have to "re-adjust" the bloodflow.
Good luck!!!!
But, don't give up!! The good ones are worth it in the end.
Mine never looks, and is always after me.
I mean he is voracious.
It takes years sometimes, but, they do finally get it.

Answer 6

With hold at your won peril. Not meant for giving favors or punishing. Beware, the worm could turn.