Okay here's the situaton me and my ex bf were dating for 6 months. During that time we fell head over heels in love. Now, we didnt break up because there was something wrong in our relationship(cheating, fighting, etc). My mom thought that he was too old for me and basically told me to call him and tell him its over and that he cannot call me anymore. So thats what i did and he was shocked because it was so sudden and unpredictable considering we were happily talking the day b4(he even teared up a little). Of course it hurts, because i was literally told to call my bf that i love so much on the spot and tell him i can never talk to/see him again. Now i was wondering, how can i get over him and stop crying?
2007-03-14 10:47:34 · 12 answers · asked by cute_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my mom told me i can see him all i want when i become 18 (i'm 16) because then i'll be an adult. She said until then i'm not allowed to talk to him (unless i see him in public, then of course i can say hi) or see him until then. Thats 2 yrs from now
2007-03-14 10:50:29 · update #1
he told me he was 19 but my mom investigated him and found out he was 23. Plus how can i remain friends with him if i cant talk to him or see him.
2007-03-14 11:02:52 · update #2
Well it might be hard to get over him, if thats really what you want to do. Maybe you should tell him why you cant see him anymore and see what he thinks. Dont end everything there. If you two were truly in love, then it wont be the end. There are ways to work it out. I dont mean sneaking behing your mothers back to see him. Talk to your mom. Talk to him. And if he was crying, then he really did care about you and didnt want to lose you. How much older is he? Anyway hun, thats not the point. All im saying is, dont throw away love. It will be hard to get over. I know my mom doesnt approve of my boyfriend, but just like you and your bf, we are head over heels. But i have found ways to work it out and i still see him. We have been dating for almost a year and 6 months now. Well hun i hope the best to you. take care. make the right decision.
2007-03-14 10:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I am very sorry about having the duty to breaking things off with your boyfriend. It's different if you were over 18. Your mother shouldn't worry. But you are 16 years old. I understand your mother's concern. She doesn't want you to have your head in the clouds and want you to focus on school. Plus, she doesn't want her little girl to make any mistakes that you might regret later (i.e. teenage pregnancy).
It is very difficult to get over your first love. However, you 2 only dated for 6 months. I don't know how deep the 2 of you were while dating so I can't say it's only puppy love or lust. But take things day by day. I know it hurts now, honey, but things will get better.
I think the best thing you can do is actually remain friends with him for now. It's better to still have him in your life than nothing at all. Tell him why you did what you did, even though deep down you want to keep going. Maybe you, your ex, and your mother can all talk things through and maybe work something out.
Once again, really sorry that you're heartbroken.
PS (as of 6:13pm): He's really 23? Okay, now I really have to agree with your mother on this. He must be in it for one thing. Please listen to your mother. You'll thank her in the long run.
2007-03-14 10:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Bibi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts right now but try to focus on other things. Hang with friends that your mom approves of. Enjoy life! I bet if I could talk to you in two years you probably will have dated other guys and might not even want to date this old b/f. We only get to be 16 once in our lives and it is a very special time. Find other things to do and the right person will come your way. Don't waste sweet 16!
2007-03-14 10:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by p00756 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence, but that was totally rude of you mother! If you really love him, go after him girl! Don't break any rules. She said no calling or seeing, correct? Why not text? You aren't really breaking the rules. Or, talk to your mother about him. Ask her, without pleading, if you could see him on occasion. No dating, just seeing. And make sure to stay calm, and show your mother that you are mature, and can handle a boyfriend. Chances are, she'll listen to what her daughter has to say.
Good luck, and may your mom say yes! :-)
2007-03-14 10:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by DramaChic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right. There's a big difference between 16 and 23. Besides, he lied - That's a bad sign.
Believe me, I have seen stories like that ending up in a REALLY bad way for the (younger) girl.
You can't see it now, but you will appreciate it later. And you will get over him eventually. Just give it time and keep yourself busy.
2007-03-14 18:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you let him know exactly what your mother said and if he's grown as she say he'll understand, just stay friends and when you turn 18 you guys can be in a relationship, all relationships start of as a friendship first anyway.
2007-03-14 10:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by ashnikki_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know why I get on here... Everyone's questions piss me off... If you loved him so much you wouldn't have broken up with him you would have lied to your mom and stayed with him or told your mom off... It seems to me that if you can just drop him like that then you are being a little too dramatic here... Get back with him or just get over it there is no special technique to getting over someone...
2007-03-14 10:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Yates M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go back out with him when your 18
2007-03-14 10:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by Peacen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't have sex with him because it will put him at risk for going to jail for statutory rape. I think you should see him secretly if you know you really love him. I know that might be terrible advice, but if he treats you well and you are meant to be, then see him secretively.
2007-03-14 10:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mention HIS AGE moms kinda knows about these things listen to her and move on get busy doing something get your mind off the situation, while doing this you might meet another Mr right.
2007-03-14 10:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Bruce B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋