Anyone Willing to give relationship advice? Should I continue to chase after her?

Question

I really care about Beth, she's 19 and I'm 28 and I know there's a part of her that still cares for me, but I feel she's afraid of gettin hurt. The last time I really felt I was gettin close, she pushed me away and I asked her if that was it and she said it was. She is pushing again and doesn't call me and I've asked her out and she said she doesn't know and she just wants 2 be just friends, but I feel that's one of her ways to attempt 2 push me away. She said she always pushes everyone away, it took her last bf like 4 months to actually break through. I've known here for over a year, but we hadn't talked for almost 5 months in that time. The one thing that I feel really screwed things up, is she thought I was still with my ex, cause my ex call and said she loves me and misses me and Beth just up and left. I want 2 keep pushing, cause I want 2 get 2 her. I started 2 see a part of her, i never had and she pushed me away and blocked me out again...what should I do

In the beginning, I didn't mean for anything to happen, such as a relationship, but yea, it happened, i can't help it now... I just need some serious advice. There's a part of her that still cares, I know, cause she still calls me when she has a bad day and she knows I'll always be there for her and her laugh is to die for.... I need some advice... I'm very bullheaded and stubborn. When I know something isn't what it is, i can't help but not stop fighting for what I want... She's running from me..... :'-(

Her roommate told me she wants me to keep trying and sweep her off her feet and blow her mind... IDK

Answer 1

Well here is what you do. Continue to be there to make her laugh...be there to hang out with...be there to talk on the phone but lets take the pressure away for awhile. Think about it...she obviously likes you but is not ready or is scared of the whole romance thing....so lets put that stuff on hold for a while and just do everything else. In other words continue to develop the friendship which involves all the same stuff as a full blown relationship has, sensitivity, common courtesy,being a gentleman, being supportive etc. But for now lets leave the romance out. You need to exercise a little patience so she can really fall for you without the pressure of the romantic side getting in the way. Do you see what I am saying here?......The question becomes are you up for the task of allowing her to follow her own heart on if and how she will fall for you. Sometimes you have to let the woman take the lead till they are comfortable. So let her set the pace ...and here is the most honest part about all this......there is a possibility she will never fall for you but if you crowd her now I promise she will never come around.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

Sweetheart dont take this wrong. Find a woman closer to your age that is more mature and not willing to push you away. You deserve that. Stop chasing her and if she comes around you tell her straight up that either she stops pushing and running or she leave and not come back. The reason she calls you for a shoulder to cry on or whatever it is, is because she knows she has you right where she wants you. Shes a child {no offense} playing a childish game

Answer 3

Ok heres what you do. Continue to talk to her, give her complements by the day even if she is in a bad mood comment on her like "I like how you hair is " or "Your eyes are really pretty today". Always show that you are there for her if something goes wrong and that she can trust you with anything. If she still pushes you away maybe shes just not comfertable with you yet or shes scared that it will ruin the friendship if something goes wrong.Next time you ask her about a relationship say something that hints her that you will still be her friend.

Answer 4

Hey bro, I could only get through 3 sentences of you novel. Here is my advise..Move on, forget her, roll down the road. Your too old for her. At 28, you are looking for a different type of relationship. Find someone else. She isn't going to be with you anymore. Stop wasting your time and find someone else. You sound like some of the 12 year olds on this site. Your 28.

Answer 5

well man i know what you mean trust me my age is a little diff im 23 she is 25 but all i can say is if you want something and you know for a fact that she cares if you feel it in your heart go for it if she ask for space you give it to her dont blow her off send her a text here and there just telling her you miss her point is you let her know that you will be there for her no matter what it took me quit a while but its alot better now but i knew how she really felt and i did not quit if you really love some one remember this TRUE LOVE IS PATIENT good luck

Answer 6

honestly
she is young and probably just wants to do her thing
I do not think it is healthy for you to try and push the situation beyond what she has offered.............friendship
be her friend and leave it at that
go date other people and encourage her to do the same
and then see what happens
chances are either this will put the nail in the coffin or it will turn the tide in your favor.
Try it and let me know how it turns out

Answer 7

Just listen to what she wants thats all you can do until she is ready for a relationship. Be good friends with her and give her space. Seems like she has been hurt before and she doesnt want the same thing happening to her again.

Answer 8

ask - then let it go... if she feels you leaving her emotionally, and she really does want you, she will come looking for YOU. and when she does I'd set some conditions... yes I said conditions! You tell her what your fears are so she'll feel more open to tell you hers. then you tell her what you will tolerate and what you won't & she'll feel safe in telling you hers... if it is meant to be, it will be - you cannot force destiny - each person has to get there in their own time & nothing will make it go faster... patience - really sucks! but trust me it does work... desperation will never win the day!

Answer 9

If you're stubborn my advice probably won't help.
She's pretty young, all that for a 19 year old. I think you're better off with someone at least 25.

Answer 10

Sometimes you have to move on and leave the past in the past.Stop chasing her because some people call that stalking.Let go and move on.