Should I say this to the girl I miss? I'm trying to plan out what to say to her these words are from the heart

Question

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking, (me and her haven't talked for ten months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's strange, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you almost every weeknight, it was only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always call. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me. I also remember that you told me I obsessed over you. I guess I did and I'm sorry, but what boy wouldn't obsess over an amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he didn't want to lose

you. It still doesn't make it right though and I'm sorry. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad. I get lost in your eyes. No other girl has your bright smile. I remember the last thing you said was I don't know you. You told me before that, when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me! I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you you're special to me. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid. I should have understood then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.

I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, I realize that's worse. So, for these things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you.
If you think I'm clingy, needy, desperate, then that's alright with me. I can't change what you think about me, I just know for myself that's not me. I just wanted to let you know, if for the last time, how I feel about you. (end)

I don't think I should say this last part though or I don't know how to say what I mean in the end right.

She isn't seeing anyone and I just want us to be friends at least. This is not a letter, I want to say this to her. Guys and girls what do you think? Girls, would you talk to me again if you were her? Are there any changes I should do? How do I make this shorter so I don't bore her? How do I compliment her more friendly and less romantic? I just have this feeling if I try actually talking to her instead of ignoring her she might listen. We've been saying hi to each other occasionally. I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've only called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all, I've just ignored her and see her look at me. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long in terms of her coming to me, and that's just not me, but she sneaks glances at me from a distance. I guess I'm just mr. nice guy. I'm going to try to talk to her normally first before telling her this, or writing her this.

The things I talk about were not mentioned from her the last time we talked when she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. She said she wasn't angry at me. She said she didn't know anything she didn't like about me. She also replied back when we were talking until I stopped thinking I was bothering her.

Answer 1

Sounds good to me but instead of all the "sorry" I would just write it once and make it count. Don't grovel on the whole lets be friends thing. keep it short and make sure she understands that you would like to but if she chooses. Sounds like this girl doesn't know a real man when she sees one. It takes guts to own up to your mistakes and that is what they are and we all make them. let her know you are human just like her. It is also her fault for not making her feelings known to you in the way she meant them to be. She has to take some blame there also for not being clear. Guys don't get hints, they need it basically spelled out to them. Let her know that. I've been around guys my whole life (living in a military family on base). i have picked up things about guys. They are just as sincere as we are and need the same love as us girls. They just have a different way of showing it. If she isn't touched by your letter than let her go. She is just a mere girl and you need a woman. Good Luck Sweetie.

Answer 2

wow... well, first of all, it all sounds really sincere, which is good. but... long. if i were you i wouldn't say all of that but just try to touch on a few of the things you want to talk about. you need to get her side of the story, what she's thinking & such, because she MIGHT be totally confused about what you're talking about... just maybe. if a guy said all that to me i'd be speechless, so don't expect much. maybe there's a little too much complimenting and stuff. you said that you just wanted to be friends with her but it sounds like you really like her a lot! it just seems too long... and planned out... there's this guy that likes me and he like plans everything he says and i can completely tell, it's annoying to me. well... it's your choice! but don't plan things too much, and don't get your hopes up
good luck!

Answer 3

Yes you should tell her this. My cousin is very moved by this. Just don't choke up. I know it can be hard. If you have to write this down & give it to her. My cousin said she would be pleased to recieve such a letter.

Answer 4

I think that is good, but you do have to prepare yourself for the fact that she may not want to talk to you again. Be careful and good luck.

Answer 5

well I think you should tell her that you like her!!!BUT,if she doesnt like you back you should just let her go!Sorry to tell it to you like this,but its the truth.There are other fish in the sea.