He is always getting mad at me and thinking that I am calling someone when he is out.I always have men flurting with me,I like to flirt but so does he.I know and trust that he is not cheating on me.I can tell, trust me.I have been cheated on before and can ALWAYS tell.I love him and want to find a way to reasure him that I am not cheating on him.Should I stop flirting? What can I do?I am lost!
2007-03-14 10:41:01 · 12 answers · asked by INLOVE4EVA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Where you like that when you first met?
If so... he fell in love with you knowing what you were like.
He has know right to change who you are. I nearly made the mistake by marrying someone like that. He fell in love with me because I was fun and out there. I was an Air Hostess and going away on overnights, he started getting very jealous and thinking I was playing up on him. I never ever did anything like that.
Slowly he started to change me till I started to become an introvert. I was so unhappy till one day I caught him with another woman. I know that sounds strange, but seeing him with another woman gave me the strength to get him out of my life.
My point is....... If you start to change who you are you will become very unhappy.
He is the one with the problems and needs to change (NOT YOU) Stay true to yourself.
It took me years to get my conference back, even now it still affects me.
2007-03-14 11:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by KONG 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, definitely don't flirt with anyone while he's around. He shouldn't flirt either. That's just basic consideration when you're with someone. If that fixes the problem, you're good. If it doesn't, then you have a much deeper issue and you will never reassure him. He needs to address his own issues of insecurity. All you can do is tell him that you love him, that you aren't and won't cheat, and that you won't accept a life of constantly reassuring someone of your fidelity. If you do, you're in for a long nightmare.
Good Luck
2007-03-14 17:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do feel the need to flirt at all?? It obviously makes him feel insecure,an then he does it too!! What you need to find is a book called the "The five love languages"- it will help you do things that will make him feel more secure and love and then he will be able to do that for him too. If you feel at all that this relationship is worth saving then, DO something about it-all good relationships need alot of work!
2007-03-14 18:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by delwyn7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure and may have some intimacy issues. He also sounds a little "controlling". He does not seem to appreciate you. You're right, everyone likes to flirt every now and again...........it's innocent on many levels. It can be a way of keeping a relationship alive and well, as long as you don't act upon the flirtatious urges. Take care of your well-being, don't focus so much on him, focus on you.
2007-03-14 19:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by cold runner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems its sure not working in your marriage is it? It is only making your husband totally insecure about you? Dont you want a peaceful loving relationship? Tell him you would like him to stop flirting so its not a competition between you two. Tell him you will stop if he stops and then work on your relationship between you both.
2007-03-14 18:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stopping the flirting would help a lot. Being married means being committed to one person. Liking to flirt doesn't mean you have to. So give that a try, and maybe it'll help you gain more trust from him.
2007-03-14 18:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Irene \m/. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is rude it is an in your face insult to your spouse. If you're not through with flirting why are you married. Learn to have friendships that are not all about what goes on between the sheets. If you want him to trust you be more worthy of his trust!
2007-03-14 17:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard as it might be you'd be better off to stop the flirting, just to put him at ease.
2007-03-14 17:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really help to stop flirting...and maybe making more romantic dinners with him...or other stuff etc.
2007-03-14 17:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's your fault to begin with, why are you blaming him?
Stop giving him reasons to doubt you and over time he won't worry. You made him this way and now you complain...ironic wouldn't you say?
2007-03-14 17:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋