We met at work and he pursued me for about a month.we didn't date for 2 months after that. We had sex on the 1st date and i am pregnant. It was obvious he was really into me at some point but we fought alot over stupid things and kinda broke up a couple times. We got back together and he was more happy than me about having a kid together. He was looking at baby clothes and engagement rings. He has 2 kids and he actually just got out of that relationship when we started going out. I have issues with him having kids and he has issues with me still being friends with an ex. I no longer work with him. About a week ago we hit a major rut and he told me he would rather be single then fight all the time. He also told me he didn't think having the baby was a good idea. We didn't talk for a week,then he showed up telling me he missed me and was just showing alot of affection and love. we had sex. A few days later he told me he thought he loved me but he reallly doesnt and to have abortion. What
2007-03-14 10:35:43 · 14 answers · asked by brownthing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like this guy doesn't know what he wants in life. He hits a rut, then shows you what he thinks you want to see from him, he gets sex from you, then says he doesn't love you no more. That's messed up. It is totally up to you on what you want to do regarding the pregnancy. But one thing is for sure, you DONT need that sort of drama, especially when you're pregnant. There is not one right answer for the situation you are in. You should go with your gut feeling. And next time someone has issues with you, if they ain't willing to learn to deal with it, they don't love you. Leave em.
2007-03-14 10:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost if you have issues with him having other kids you should have NEVER messed with him and you should have used protection, Staying with someone because they are pregnant or you have kids together is the WRONG reason. And if you were not in a commited relationship with him you should have used protection. However you didnt, dont say you did and now you are pregnant. Either raise that baby on your own and stop whining because he's made a choice and I agree I'd rather be single then fight with someone all the time! He doesnt love you, stop the drama move on and raise the baby alone, put it up for adoption, or have an abortion if that is what you want.
2007-03-14 10:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is this boy????
It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. He already has 2 kids with one or two women? Who is taking care of this babies. NOT HIM.
Come on u just three months and Ur pg. On the first date what were u thinking?????
OK Y r u braking up so much????
He is just playing with u. All u r is some past time Look at his past 2 kids not married.... Where r the babies Mo ma's??
Do u know if they still see them or Fthem?
U really need to think things threw. With out his input and see what is best for U. I may sound selfish, but u r going to b the one caring for this child not him. Do what ur head and heart disided on. He is no good...... Good luck.....U'll need it!!!!
2007-03-14 10:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he's just been using you for sex and sadly, you've been giving it to him. If you choose to keep your child, then do it, IF the guy wants to be apart of his child's life then let him but other than that, cut this guy off. You can raise a baby by yourself. My mother raised 4 children by herself! This guy is scum. He has told you how he felt about you and about you having this baby and you won't seem to get it through your head. He wanted sex without the ties and it just so happened that it didn't work out like that, he wants you to get rid of the baby so he'll have nothing else to do with you beside call you up if he gets horny. You dont' need that. Leave him alone, you'll be mad at yourself later on in life if you continue to waste your time worrying about someone who is not worried about you
2007-03-14 10:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is to wishy washy. He should have thought about wanting to be single and not having a baby before he slept with you. People like that just piss me off! He needs to grow up before he can be any kind of a husband or a father. You would probably be better off without him anyway. There are plenty of single moms out there. He just doesn't want to pay child support. Stick it to him!
2007-03-14 10:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee I guess that you were not in controll of the situation. First date ? Guess you feel dumb. Should of at least insisted in using a condom. You do know what they are for don't you. You hold the keys to the kingdom and should have used your priviledge of control.
Best thing now is abortion or adoption.
Best of luck to you and be more controlled next time.
2007-03-14 10:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow thats rough. Well number on the abortion is your choice not his, but you will have to keep in mind that you might be raising it on your own which is very hard. just be honest with your feelings for him and if he says he does not feel the same way you better start making plans with out him. Your to far in your life to chance it. Is he in or out?
2007-03-14 10:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by kinreep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guys is completely wierd. I would say just tell break up with him i dont think u would want to fight with him
2007-03-14 10:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Pat the Bat Burrell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should cut him completely out of your life and move on with your child alone.You deserve better than that and so does your baby.You don't need more added stress on your life.You should do whatever makes you happy.
2007-03-14 11:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep this baby...plan on doing it all on your own because THAT jerk will not be around to support you and the baby.
2007-03-14 10:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋