Too soon for another baby?

Question

I'm a young mother of two boys (under two) Recently I have been looking at adopting a girl from Guatemala (around age 4-6) I love being a mother and we're financially stable, no gov assistance, etc.

Why is there so much negativity toward young parents?

Would I have trouble trying to adopt so soon? I feel like I could make a big difference in a child's life.

I know some country's wont even let young couples adopt. Does anyone have any info on Guatemala's?

Also, anyone have any great experiences with a specific agency? Any general advice would be nice as well.

Thanks =)

"Too soon for another baby?" Baby meaning 4-6 year old. So not really a "baby"

GIMMER05- good point, I had not looked at it that way.

Answer 1

I think you should wait to adopt for at least another year or two. Your boys still have a lot of milestones to reach and one big thing is if you bring in another child who needs a lot of attention right then, your sons may have problems.

Your new daugther would have language issues and wouldn't understand the culture which would require you to spend a lot of time focusing on her and less on the boys.

Don't get me wrong...I encourage adoption to the utmost; but, maybe for the sake of your boys and the impending daughter...just wait a bit. :]

Answer 2

There is probably an organization somewhere in your area that could help you get more information. I think you have to be at least 21 to adopt a child from any agency that is in the US or does business here. One of my high school friend's parents adopted a little girl from China and two older kids from here in the States but I really don't know what all they went through.

I do agree with the others that you should wait until your sons are older; however, the paperwork in some adoptions can take a year or two so if you start the process now it still may be a year or more before you actually bring the child home.


As for negativity toward young parents, I think it has a bit to do with the fact that most of us wait until we're older now to settle down and raise a family. It's more socially acceptable to spend the first part of your 20's 'finding yourself' and to be honest I think that a lot of people who have kids at a young age really aren't ready for it. I hate to stereotype but judging from my friends and former classmates who married and/or had children at a young age it really doesn't seem to be a good idea for most people. If you and your family are happy though, don't worry about what other people think.

After I'm finished with school and I feel like I'm ready I want to have two of my own and then adopt a few older kids who are already in the system. My best friend in junior high was a permanent foster kid after his mom died and some of the things those kids have to go through is horrible.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think it's great that you want to adopt. My husband and I have 1 son, and we're ttc another child, and after that we want to adopt. We want a little girl from China and maybe 2-3 kids from the US.

It's going to be a while before we can adopt, because my husband is almost 21 and I just turned 20 in November. I'm a stay at home mom and he works full time, and makes good money, but that doesn't matter to adoption agencies. You could be parent of the year and make $5 million/year but if you aren't 25 it doesn't matter that you could brighten the lives of 15 kids who are in foster care or in orphanages.

Good luck, and I think you're doing a wonderful thing!

Answer 4

Give to your sons first. They are so young and have such great needs. Two boys under two - kids need 15 minutes every waking hour of your individual attention. That's a half hour right there - what time do you really have to give another child? Do this set right, then add.

Also, consider adopting someone younger than they are, so that you don't upset their birth order development and place in the family.

Answer 5

you need to wait I mean I think it is great that you want to adopt but let your little boys be the babies for a little longer

Answer 6

I would say yes, it's a little too soon. Wait until the young ones are past the terrible twos, hon.

Answer 7

i don't have any childrens of my own i'm way to young for that but if u want to get another child go for it! :)

Answer 8

Things go wrong more unexpectedly the younger you are

Answer 9

no sweetie i dont know anything about it.I just wanted to say good luck and best wishes

Answer 10

http://www.guatadopt.com/


Good luck!!