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Hello! My name is Jackie and I'm 18. I'm a senior in high school and i had posted this earlier on my sister's yahoo answer's name. I really needed help with something! I realized after i wrote it that they way i had written it was a bit immature so i will start over again. I apologize for the length of this.

I am graduating this year and i feel like this is the year i have found my "best friends" Lets call these friends Person #1 Person #2 Person # 3 and Person # 4." true colors. Sadly enough there colors are black and not a pretty color like orange or green. I am looking for advice as to what i should do in this situation. I hope that someone will be able to help me understand what's going on. Thanks a million :)

-P.S. I REALIZE THIS IS VERY LONG I DO NOT WANT EVERYONE TO READ IT ALL you would be here for days all i ask is that you at least try to read ONE PLEASE! I'm VERY UPSET and i really need help!

-PLEASE HELP please! it would mean so much to me!

Person # 1

Person number one and i have known eachother now since the 4th grade. In the 7th grade her and another one of her best friends got into a really really big argument. Since then she has not invited me to any parties or anything. This year really drew the line for me.I wrote a bit of a "mean" note and was a bit immature about it stating how i felt. Stating that i felt she was more worried about popularity and her so called friends then to worry about if she is hurting people. See the reason i wrote this "note" on the internet was because she threw two BIG house parties. She told me to my face that was was having these parties but felt it was best if i did not come. She said she did not want any "drama" and that i do not know many of the people on the track team. I ran track myself for a year and we all know that was a lie. When i really asked her for the truth about the whole situation this was her response

"I told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated ... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just listen to again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.”

i then asked her for her "real" reason and she went on to tell me the following

alright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.”

i realized that what i had written about her on the internet was a bit "immature" and i apologized to her for it. But what i said i felt was not really "mean" just justifying how i felt. I realized i could have done it in a better manner and i wish i had.

I then asked her why she invited my best friend and not me! My best friend has no association with track and one of her parties had NOBODY from the track team at it. She told me it was because my other best friend "knew" the people

QUESTIONS REGARDING PERSON # 1
- please answer honestly

1. do you belive what she is saying is "real" or do you feel she is just making things up as to not hurt my feelings

2. Should i still consider her a friend?

3. was i right for apologizing for my actions?

4. should i have handled the situation differently?

Person # 2

Person # 2 got me involved with a group called "REBEL" it's people against smoking. It used to be a county based even but now was put into every high school instead to get kids to stop smoking. My Best friend was put in charg of the club who became president vice president etc. I had asked her if it was possible for me to become a member of the board because i was involved with the club for 4 years. She told me she felt it would be better if she allowed freshman to become members of the board because that would make it easier for her and this other girl who was president to train them so that they would be able to lead the club next year when the seniors graduate.

I respected her decision and said that was fine and if she ever needed help to call me. At the next meeting i found out that she put 3 other seniors who were also her friends onto the board. She never put any freshman on and those 3 seniors were NEVER in the club EVER this was there first year joining it. I felt really betrayed!

I also ran for a position in another club that she is involved with me in and she told the person who was in charge of choosing who should be president etc. that she objected me being president and though there was someone who could do better for the job. Her other best friend. She got the position on the board. I felt betrayed again.

She ALSO allowed her best gay male guy friend to call me using her cell phone to tell me that i should go commit suicide and die and how the whole school wants me dead and how the world would be a better place with me dead.

She knew he was using his phone and when i approached her about it she said "yeah i don't know why he did that" I never got an apology or anything!

QUESTIONS INVOLVING PERSON # 2

1. Would you be friends with her?

2. what would you do in my situation?

3.would you be upset?

Person # 3.
Person # 3 and i have had our "up's and down's" we tend to argue a lot. I don't really have a problem with her i never did that is. But sometimes i feel like she is not a good friend. She gets "angry" very easily. She got angry at me because she thought Aberham Lincon was black and i said "and your going to med school?" She got angry and hit me in the face. I did not hit her back but instead walked away. She has also kicked me on numerous occasions when she's angry. She has also urniated in my shower and told me about it.

When so comes over to eat she complains to my mom. My mom knows that this girl only eats chicken so my mom made her bbq chicken. She refused to eat it and made my mom cook her a seprate meal because she wouldn't eat the chicken with bbq sauce. She can give real attitudes with people and tends to bring a lot of drama to the table. She gets very angry easily and even talks to teachers with attitude. She once yelled down the hall to her math teacher "Yo smith get over here now" I know she is going through a similar situation as the one i am but i feel like i don't need someone who brings MORE drama to the table. She has trouble getting along with EVERYONE my boyfriend can't even stand her. I don't know why she's not a "bad person" just very rude at times.

Questions on person # 3
-would you be friends with someone like that?-

Person # 4

Person # 4 and person # 3 are best friends with me. They are best friends with each other as well. We were supposed to go to prom together with person # 4 and my boyfriend and a group of other people. Person # 4 told us to purchase our tickets today Wednesday for prom. She came up to me and person # 3 yesterday to tell us that she told everyone else to purchase there tickets yesterday but somehow managed to "forget" to tell us. She had also made reservations for a limo already and there was not enough room for my boyfriend me and Person # 3 so we would ahve to find our own ride and our own table to sit it. Person # 3 started crying so much.

Person # 4 is also a big liar!
she comes up to me every single day during my lunch period to complain about person # 3 and tell me how bad of a person she is. She tells me that she can't stand her and isn't sure if she wants to go to college because person #3 is going to that college

She tells me how annoying person # 3 is and goes on and on and on.

but..yet...she's rooming with person # 3. Kind-of strange don't you think??

I have also heard person # 4 talking to person # 3 about me. Telling person # 3 about how dumb i am because i am struggling in the one AP class i ever took in high school. She told person # 3 she was surprised i even got into college because I'm so dumb. I didn't say anything to her or did not hint that i had heard her even.

Answer 1

Long question but a quick answer. Since you are graduating you are about to enter a new phase of your life, you will be meeting new people and making new friends. Go forward with an open mind and don't worry about what you leave behind.

If those are your "old friends" who needs "enemies".

good luck

Answer 2

Here's advice for all your friends: Pray for them and shower them in kindness. They'll see that you care for them and you'll be best friends again.

Answer 3

STAY IN SCHOOL.