I asked this question before so I'm sorry if you have answered already. I just wanted to clarify some things. My aunt lost custody of my cousin b/c she is a really bad mother. My mom took him in and just found out she may have the right to adopt him soon. My mom is really mean to my cousin she yells at him and tells him constantly how bad he is. She is never positive with him. He does have bad behavior sometimes b/c of the poor life he has had so far. He is really trying though. He is treated way differently than my other sisters. My step dad is racist and my cousin is half black. He will never accept him but my mom thinks she is doing the right thing by keeping him in the family. I am not a spoiled brat or a child. I am 22 years old and do not live at home. I visit my mom daily so I know the situation. Please help what do I do!! I want to notify his case worker anonymously...Is this wrong??
2007-03-14 10:23:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do not believe this to be wrong. You have this child's best interest at heart and this child deserve's to be with someone that loves him. How sad that he has a life where he is not treated with love and decency. Of course he will act out. He is hurting and feels worthless and unloved. Please do not hesitate to make your feelings known. You can make a difference in this child's life. If necessary confront your parents on what they are doing to this poor child. It almost seems that they want to adopt him for "appearance" sake and not because they want or love him. Your parent's are being abusive and this child deserves better. I commend your stepping up to do the right thing! It takes a brave and compassionate person to do what is right for him...and this is you! God Bless You!
2007-03-14 10:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by ceegt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My vote is to contact the case worker and explain the situation that you have observed. Threaten to report the case worker if she allows this child to be placed in an abusive home.
Then go above the case worker and notify the state child welfare and child safety agencies. Contact everyone you can to stop this from happening. Contact the 800 number for reporting abuse and consistently report the situation until something is done. Ask the case work who else you need to report this to.
I hope this child finds a loving and safe secure environment in which he can thrive and grow. It is so sad that abuse takes place under the rouse of obligation.
You are this child's only salvation. Please help him and let him know now that he is a good boy in a bad situation.
p.s. Do not count on the case worker keeping it quite who made the report. What is suppose to happen and what really happens is two different things. Definitely depends on the case worker and her honesty and integrity levels and her ability to follow the rules. Remember to some people gossip is gossip no matter what the circumstances. Trust no one to keep you out of it. But you MUST do something for the child's sake.
2007-03-14 11:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were I....I would report it something worse could happen to him if he stays with your mom esp if your step dad is racist. it might be more affective if you go see the case worker in person and let the case worker know that you don't want them to find out you said anything...sometimes if the case worker gets a anonymous call they will think that it is a friend of the mothers! Good Luck! I say get that kid out of there!
2007-03-14 11:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by fobfanlovesgreg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try for adoption rights? Not just one person can sue for custody of a child.
Whatever roads you choose, just remember that there is the future of a young child at stake. Don't think about what it will do to your relationship with your mother if you save a 3 year old from a life of Hell now and 18 to 30 years from now.
Whatever happens to him today, will effect him tomorrow.
Good luck Hon!
2007-03-14 10:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would report the problem to the case worker. He may be put in a foster home, but that may be better than the way he will grow up in your parents home. The case worker is not allowed to say who told her anything, so your parents would never know that it was you. But I would definately discuss the situation with the case worker. Good Luck, and you are a very good cousin to be willing to report this.
2007-03-14 10:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u should do any kind of reporting! This is a child that will grow up into society.He might just turn out to be a productive citizen. The dicipline by your mom may need some help,but she feels a need to be stern and just be going about it the wrong way. This can change. Most bl.wt mixed kids are in the same situation b/c the white mother spends all her time trying to fit in black instead of being a mother. All the orphanages are filled w/ mixed children.For you U can ask the childrens services to get u & your mother parenting classes!! They usually are glad to do this!!!
2007-03-14 10:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he is not being treated any better then he was with his real mother then she should not be allowed to adopt him. If he is 3 yrs old and they talk to him they have a way of finding these things out and YOU can report it anonymously. It would be wrong for her to adopt him when her own husband is racist that is just setting a child up for a life of degradation. It would be flat out wrong to sit there and watch it happen.
2007-03-14 10:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Simple Life? HAHA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound like a good environment for your cousin. I don't understand why your mom is even considering adoption if she treats him like she does. Your cousin will be much better off with parents who appreciate having a little boy. Besides his behavioral issues can probably be turned around because of his age if he has the proper guidance. Your Mom's home does not sound like a good place for him. Do whatever you can to see this adoption does not take place.
2007-03-14 10:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by g 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if your mom treats your cousin like that.... she does not have a right to adopt him. You should report it. The kid deserves a better life and if your step dad is a racist.... then the worst it will be if he is half black. DO THE RIGHT THING FOR THIS CHILD.
2007-03-14 10:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by ~mother of 2 beautiful girls~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seriously, I would notify the case worker on this. You can do it anonymously if you want. You should do what is best for the child, and in this case it may be best not to be adopted by this family.
2007-03-14 10:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋