My husband of 20 years is so wonderful and we get along 100%. He is a kind and GENROUS lover, very gentle with me, yet strong as a bear. He was 16 years military and has been out since 2000. He seems sooooo perfect in each and everyway BUT he cannot seem to hold a job now that he is out of the service for more than 8 or 9 months- and thats the LONGEST one- the average lasts about 3 or 4 months. This is really starting to hurt our family. I normally work but I just had major back and hip surgery and cannot work and work comp. still has not paid me and I hired an attorney- that was 3 months ago. My husband just quit yet another job knowing its impossible for me to save us in anmy way at all! Things are getting so tight I may have to sell my car just to keep our home. Ive tried in vain talking to him about how I feel and all I get is Im sorry- I know- Im a lousy husband! I NEVER SAID THAT! I cry all the time- worried sick for our family and that doesnt even to affect him HELP
2007-03-14 10:20:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One little fault??? That's a big fault....Of course he can't keep a job - he hasn't had to decide anything for 16 years...not even what he would wear!! He really has had no responsibilities and now he should step up to the plate - but doesn't know how.
It's up to you whether you stay or go......but I don't believe things will change for him..
Good luck
2007-03-14 10:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the place is all that discipline the militia is meant to be coaching? would not sound like he rather cares for every physique yet himself. I wager he unearths away to have something he would pick, despite in case you adult men won't have the ability to truly have the money for it. Sounds to me so you might kick him to the decrease, if he isn't contributing faithfully then he's a drain. there will be greater help to a single mom, with a deadbeat husband and father. Than a married female with the comparable. you reside single, with married duties. He won't replace, don't get your hopes up that he will, that militia element is purely an excuse, a crutch. Watch his habit, and you will see precisely what I recommend. the best component of do is divorce him until now it rather is too previous due, which will keep your loved ones. I recommend he's already long previous, if he won't carry on with a job, suited?
2016-12-18 13:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to step up and provide for your family. A lot of people hate their jobs but they know they HAVE to work to maintain and get things they need. Also tell him to find a job and stick with it so he might actually retire faster and maybe get a retirement plan. He is the man of the family and needs to take care of the household, especially with you not being able to work. Tell him to stop saying sorry and actually start meaning it by going out and sticking with a job. Even if it doesn't make a lot, it's still something. You need to push him, I guess you could try scaring him into getting a job by saying you're financial issue is really worse off then it really is. Try to take out unnecessary spending, and have a serious talk with him and let him know how you feel and it's his responsibility.
2007-03-14 10:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by *~*~*~* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let him know how much you care about him and your marriage and family, and that it is not your responsiblity to keep the family from sinking financially. He is equally responsible. It souds like you are holding all the anxiety about this situation and that lets him off the hook. Remind him of his responsibility and duty to his family and that is to provide financially... and dont' let him get away with the crap of Im not a good husband... tell him that is not what you are saying, what you are saying is that I'm not going to sell everthing I have just because you don't want to hold a job... you are a team and he needs to carry his own weight.
2007-03-14 10:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Robert S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult time for both of you, help him and support him you have to be strong right now. You'll figure it out as long as you talk openly to him, be careful not to hurt him, those are 20 years of happy marriage don't throw them away.
2007-03-14 10:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Musica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your husband quitting? What is happening at these jobs? Bad jobs are no fun but if there is a finacial hardship in your lives can't he stick it out longer?
2007-03-14 10:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking for a job he fits in. Don't give up. Lower your expenses as much as possible. If you have to eat mac n cheese, hot dogs, and ramen. Do it.
2007-03-14 10:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET HIM SOME HELP
2007-03-14 11:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋