Would it be wrong to send this in an e-mail?

Question

FIRST, MY GIRL IS A MEDICAL ASSISTANT, WE NORMALLY E-MAIL ONE ANOTHER FREQUENTLY THROUGHOUT THE DAY (SO I CAN'T ACT LIKE THIS ISSUE DOESN'T EXIST), AND I CAN'T CALL HER

I wonder if it is okay for me to send this because she is busy sometimes at work and I don't want to mess up her day completely. I don't think I can just fake it when she sends me "normal" e-mails such as how is your day going, etc. Here is what I want to send:

We need to talk tonight. I feel like you're pushing me away and there is no way in hell it is my imagination. We need to come to a decision tonight about our relationship because yes, relationships take work, but not this much work. I love and care for you, but I need to understand just what is going on. I love you and Bella, but I need happiness in my life too. Also, you deserve to be happy and if I'm not providing that, we need to reevaluate our relationship.

Answer 1

No, I don't believe I would send all that to her while she is at work. I'd say that you need to see her soon and that you want to talk to her about something that's important to you and leave it at that. Those things need to be said in a face-to-face situation. Good luck.

Answer 2

It kinda depends. How long have you been dating her? If she's really pushing you away, then you need to talk to her about it. She'll be glad you said something. Try to send it later in the day, because if you don't it will be on her mind all day. She'll have all day to think of an excuse for her actions. You don't want to give her that time. You want the real answer. Think of when you were a kid. If you knew Mom and Dad were going to punish you when you got home from school, you thought of an excuse/lie for what you're being punished for. It probably worked sometimes. When they caught you off guard though, you probably got punished. Same thing here. You'll be more likely to get the truth later in the day. Bottom line, it doesn't matter how you tell her (in person, phone, email, etc.) it's just that you tell her that matters. It'll never get better if you don't talk about it! Good luck!!!!

P.S.- Try to be a little more gentle, like the other person said. I think I'd rather recieve their version. It makes you sound like a better person too (not that you don't sound like a good person!).

Answer 3

Why can't you tell her this to her and not in an email. I mean this is something that I would want to hear and not read. There is nothing wrong with sending it I suppose. It's just most woman would rather a man tell them good-bye to their faces instead of a Dear John letter and although those are not the exact words you are say to her but to read that it is exactly what you are saying in a round about way. If neither of you are happy then yes you should talk about it and move on if nothing can be resolved. I hope it all works out for you but personally I think you should tell her this to her face and not in an email. Email and letters are so impersonal and cold

Answer 4

I think it would hurt a little bit but if you guys never have enough time to sit down and talk than I guess you don't have much of a choice.You both need to get everything out on the table so both of you know where your relationship is going.Hopefully you both love each other enough to make it work.Good luck I hope you find your happiness.

Answer 5

I don't think you should send that to her at work, it might mess with her and ruin her job performance....therefore leading to getting sued or fired. I think you should just tell her you need to talk to her tonight about something important and leave it at that. Then talk to her about it in person or call her at home. If you have to, IM each other so you can talk back and forth about each issue in detail. Maybe she only responds that way to you because she is at work and busy and maybe incase someone read her emails. Goodluck!

Answer 6

No! No! No! No! No! No! No!
even if you meet each other for 5 minutes a month wait for that 5 minutes and say those words to her face ..
cuz ladies in general can make a 24309671934807 decision in a second.
if you are not there infront of her talking about that .. I think she wont chose the best for you and her ..

that's my personal experince.
I am not sure about any body else.
If you really love her and care about her . you should be talking personally to her about that.

I hope it help..

Good luck Man.

Answer 7

What you are planning to lay on her needs to be done in person. Have the courage to do this face to face. That way you will probably not have to try and explain to her any more and she will either hear you out or send you down the road. Best to get it out in the open and each have your say. That way both of you will understand what's going on.

Answer 8

Hi

Well honey , if we had a few more men in the world that could be more up front with their feelings I sure wouldn't complain .

I think the letter is dead on and letting her know that there is an issue that needs to addressed .

GOOD LUCK
C

Answer 9

Don't tell her "We need to talk" at work. Just tell her when she gets a chance later on this evening to give you a call or could you call her. This way it doesn't look soo obvious. I mean if you tell her the "We need to talk" that is just going to make her mood at work not soo good, and she is going to think the worst case scenerio... So, just word it like I said... Be like, Baby, can I call you or can you call me when you get out of work?... Love you...

Keep it short and sweet.

Answer 10

Save most of it to say in person. Keep the e-mail shorter. The essential parts are "We need to talk tonight" and "We need to come to a decision about our relationship."