Please Answer!!!?

Question

I am 14 and have never had a boyfriend or been kissed. I am kinda shy and I don't really know how to talk to guys. I am very shy around them. Please answer some of the questions I have.

1.) Since I am so shy around guys will I ever get a boyfriend?

2.) When somebody goes out with somebody in like 4th or 5th grade is that really a boyfriend?

3.) I feel like I should be going out with guys because so many people at my school have gone out with somebody and I feel like I am weird. Am I?

4.) My friends had "boyfriends" that didn't even talk to eachother or see each other outside of school. How could that be?

5.) Was anybody like me when you were my age?

Thanks to all who answers. I really appreciate it.

Answer 1

1) yes, you will have boyfriends - just give yourself some time

2) I don't consider this a boyfriend. 4th and 5th graders are still young and they don't really know what "dating" is yet.

3) No, you're not weird. You're only 14. Don't be in a hurry to grow up - it'll happen when it's meant to happen.

4) Again, like #2, I don't consider it a relationship - it's just a title.

5) Yep, me. I didn't have my first (real) kiss until right before my 16th birthday, my first (real) boyfriend until 16 and I was the definition of SHY in school!! Things happen when you're ready for them to happen. Don't worry about what other kids are doing - just be patient.

Answer 2

1.) Yes you will. Trust me from experience. I was like the shyest person ever, and I had a few boyfriends in high school.

2.) No. When your in the fourth and fifth grade, I dont really think you understand the concept of being in a relationship. I work with 4th and 5th graders and they have no idea what it means. Besides, most of them are still in that cootie phase.

3.) Your not weird. You shouldn't want to date someone just because all your friends have. It wouldn't make things right. I wanted to have a boyfriend because all my friends had one, but when I got one, it didn't feel right. I was more into the idea of having a boyfriend then actually liking the guy.

4.) I don't understand what you mean. Do you mean that your friends never saw their "boyfriends" outside of school? Not even talk to them. That doesn't seem right. If your dating, it should be more than just at school. Otherwise, it's kinda pointless to be dating. At school you should focus on school and after you can focus on everything else, like boys.

5.) It sounds like you were just like me when I was your age. If you ever have any other q's or ever wanna talk, e-mail me.

Answer 3

You are 14 so you are to the age where you start to be quite interested in guys so I am thrilled that you are asking good questions. First off maybe you should treat dating as a journey for what it is suppose to be, and not what it may look like at school. Dating is about you gathering information about guys thru the years so that you can gradually pick out the things you like in a guy and throw out those things you don't like. That way, some day you will make an intelligent choice about the kind of guy that you will fall in love with and won't be afraid to bring children in to this world after your married. So what am I saying?......If your shy that's cool....many guys love that in a girl. Don't change that unless you want to come out of your shell alittle. Remember there are alot of shy guys out there but its their job to pursue you...its the natural order of things. And they will, so be patient. The biggest piece of advise for you is follow your conscience and your heart. Don't do things just because you hear alot of people in school are doing it. If you aren't comfortable then follow your feelings...they will guide you well. There are alot of years for you to have boyfriends so yes it will happen...I promise you. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Let nature take its course, you will have the boyfriend, and the kisses in due season, you do not have to be in a hurry and believe me you are not weird. it is better to wait until its time. everyone does not have the same time frame for boyfriends, and STDs so if I may suggest that you just observe people in the fast lane, see if they survive, or crash and burn. Learn a few things before you become so anxious
about what everyone else is doing.

Answer 5

hi there
slow down and breath. you'll start dating when it feels right. focus on school, friends,hobbies and sports. don't compare your self to anyone because everyone is different. dating is a rite of passage meaning it will happen for you when it's supposed to happen. focus on being a good student,daughter and friend. Trust me 'love' will find a way.