could i be better?

Question

ok well my ex bf cheated on me
my other ex asked other people if he should break up with me
my other ex started smoking
is this my fault or is it the guys i choose to go out with
i really need help

Answer 1

Its your fault for wanting the same type of men. Instead of going for the bad boys try going for the nice guys.

Answer 2

Yes, you could always be better. Everyone can improve themselves. even your mom and me, and the coach.
Please don't change yourself to be of more value to a high school boy!
You can change one person in the world. Yourself. You might be able to influence others to change, but you have to like Ophah or something. Write a book or build a building, like that.
Use your time and energy to enjoy school. Learn stuff. Take band. Play sports. Build lifelong friendships! Figure out whether you want to be a doctor, a chef, an artist, a vet, a race car driver, or a mommy or all of the above. Then take classes that will help you do that.
You are into your 3rd ex and you are apparently picking losers. Why is that?
A loser can spot someone to mistreat a mile away.
You might be sending out "willing to put up with anybody" vibes. At least you break up with them when they hurt you, and that's good.
Are you getting too serious too fast? Are you bedding them down and then figuring out that they suck? Don't do that to yourself.
Set yourself standards. High standards? No, just YOUR standards.No smokers, no jerks who discuss my private life with others, no cheaters.
Pick people who you ADMIRE their ideas, and think they will amount to something.
This means you might have to date older guys or swans.
You must get to know someone before you "go with them." Don't let them or you pressure you to have a BF. Have a NICE guy. Have a FRIEND!
You are worth it, if you MAKE yourself worth it.
Good luck. Hope I helped.

Answer 3

You can hardly be given the burden of directing anothers course of existence. Our only real obligation is to navigate through our own individual lives, at no point do we have the authority to effect another unless they give us that authority, any indication to the contrary is little more than the attempt of the one in question to displace accountability, which again, is hardly your problem.

There is always room for improvement, the fact that you are aware of this concept leads me to believe that you're on the right track. Keep in mind that a prolonged involvement with the wrong person could very likely prohibit you from meeting the right one. Assume that even the most momentary of involvements has content and substance, effectively securing the tools necessary to become a better you, certainly a wiser you, and that, in and of itself justifies the process.

Answer 4

Your first question says it all. "Could I be better?" Honey everyone could be better. You're too young to have that many ex's. However, if you want to continue having a string of ex's continue doing what you are doing.

If you would like a mature relationship that can lead to something lasting. Then quit rushing from relationship to relationship. Become the best you that you can get an eduction, develop the positive aspects of your personality. Do some volunteer work help some folks out.

You will attract a better class of partner when you have more class.

Answer 5

I guess a little of both. They obviously didn't like you enough to stay and mostly girls change guys and make them want to be a better person....the smoking was not so good I don't know I would need more details on things you think you do wrong but so far they did not like you enough or were comitted enough.

Answer 6

Maybe it your fault on the way you act like. Or you really have a bad taste in guys.

Answer 7

YOU AREN'T A HOPELESS CASE SO DON'T LOOK AT IT THAT WAY...... IT'S THE DUDS YOU ROLE WITH..... i think you need to change the type of men that you go for .... maybe set a standard that is NOT TOO HIGH OR TOO LOW cause if you do you won't be happy either...... CHANGE UP YOUR STILE AND YOU'LL GET SOMEONE BETTER!!!!!

Answer 8

not your fault you just attract the bad guys though there's always gonna be bad habits to accept with eachother but defo not your fault just pick your men better

Answer 9

sounds like you just made some bad decisions in who you date. look at what each of them had in common and maybe raise your standards just a little. but i wouldn't worry too much about it being you. i dated a number of jerks before i found my fiance. i just had to tell myself that i was better than i was letting myself believe and i found someone who makes me feel like i'm that much better. keep your head up...he's out there.

Answer 10

i dont think it is your fault it is just the choses you make and that can be made better by just getting to know the guy and than ask yourself is he the right guy for me?