I would like to have my children close in age, like have one after the other. Is it safe?

Question

I would really like to have my children close in age like as soon as my first is born get pregnant with my second. The reason for this is that i have a 10 year gap with my brother and felt really lonely as a child. I dont know how safe this is but know women do it all the time.

Answer 1

My chn. are now in their early teens and there is 16 months between them. I think it is good to have them really close because they are great friends and as a parent you can do things which interest both of them. I am not a doctor but I have been told that the closer you have them ,the easier it is because your body hasn't gone back.The second birth was really easy with no pain relief needed. From my own experience I would recommend having y,our kids as close together as you can

Answer 2

I don't think it is a matter of being unsafe, if you think you can cope with two little ones close in age, then go for it.
I had my second when my first was 2 and nine months, that was a good gap, then there was 15 months between 2 and 3 and 15 months between 3 and 4, it was tough, but as they got older they were all good friends. Then 6 years later I had another daughter and we are TTC again after a miscarriage in Dec.
There is no right or wrong answer to your question. Women do have babies close together all the time.
Good luck!

Answer 3

It depends an loads of things, your age and general health for starters. Also, if you, like me had problems in your first pregnancy like SPD (too loose a pelvis - not nice) they recommend you wait 18-24 months before getting pregnant again. So of course I got pregnant again after 12 months :)

It also depends on wether you are still breastfeeding, do you really want the toll of being pregnant and breastfeeding at the same time? Speaking from experience it is very draining. Not to mention it can lower your chances of conception.

Most research shows that there is a small link between waiting less than 6 months to get pregnant again and an increased risk of the baby being born to early. But all this is relative. If your GP considers you to be healthy and, more importantly, if you feel fit, healthy and ready to go out and do it all again right now then go for it as soon as you feel ready to start trying.

Answer 4

I can understand what you are saying about wanting to have them close together, my siblings were 4 years older. So I have had my kids all 20 months apart. I would say from personal experience, that it is really hard on your body and you will go crazy...but your kids will be really close and will have a great time together. I think waiting 12-18 months between pregnancies is better on your body and easier to handle and would eliminate more health risks. Your children will still be close, but at least you won't have a newborn before your older one is still learning to walk or have too many in diapers. I had 3 in diapers for a couple of months...it was craziness!

Answer 5

i am pregnant with my 6th child i also wanted to have my kids quite close together i got pregnant with each child when the babies were 18months old this means there is just over 2yrs between them all.i found that doing it this way i enjoyed the time with my baby before getting pregnant again on the other hand my sister in law had one after the other in fact the boys are the same age for a month because the last one was premature this actually put her off having any more because she was stressed so much. hope things turn out the way you want them to whatever you decide best wishesx

Answer 6

I had a Naturopath tell me to wait at least an entire year before trying to get pregnant again. A pregnancy takes a lot out of a woman and she should give herself enough time for the body to heal and restore itself of all the nutrients. However, women have consecutive pregnancies all the time. In past generations it was not uncommon to see women pregnant for a decade. They'd have one child after another. I personally would wait because I trust the Naturopath. It's a personal decision.

Answer 7

I'm sure it's safe, but what about safe emotionally? I would at least wait a year or two before having a second child. You would need to have some time to spend with the first child before you had another one. You would probably need to be stable enough to have two kids so soon. It just depends if you think you're up to it or not.

Answer 8

Hey nice thought & calculation, but i think atleast ones u get out of your pregency you need 2-3 months time to recover in terms of health, also atleast there should be 1-2 years of gap between 1st & 2nd child, except in cases of twins.
If you keep a gap of 3-4 years then you can handle the babies easily & give attention to it.Think twice before you do & consult a good doctor.
Best of luck.

Answer 9

It's probably safe for your health, but your body wil suffer for it, and you will be absolutely exhausted. Children are really hard work. Why not have one first, then concentrate on looking after him/ her for a while then if you think you can cope with two youngsters try again. But be warned, they are hard work one at a time. I have one of 9, one of 7, and one of 1. It is not easy like that, but if the gaps were closer I think I would have a nervous breakdown. Good luck

Answer 10

I've heard that waiting at least a year after giving birth is best, because it gives your body time to recouperate.

With that being said, my mom had 3 kids in the span of 3 1/2-4 years. My mom was fine, and we all turned out fine as well.

I think it is mostly personal choice, but I would also consult your doc to make sure, because everyone's body is different.