How can my grandmother get a meth user to get all his stuff and himself out of her house?

Question

Besides a restraining order what can be done? or what type of restraining order? he is a heavy meth user with all kinds of garbage and junk in her yard. He leeches off her for probation fees and takes her money. She is just puzzled and doesnt know how to treat her own grand son? Any ideas? Any answer is a good one here.. thanks...

Answer 1

Not an easy fix to be had I don't imagine. I don't generally advocate for the involvement of law enforcement unless it's necessary, like perhaps a chance of retaliation, or some other illconceived version of a tantrum. I certainly don't think she should confront him alone, but it's apparent that she should confront him. While I can sympathize with her plight, having a bunch of tweeker friends, it generally comes down to tough love. The concept of love is likely the means in which she justifies letting it continue, the difference lies in what is actually best for the grandson. It's quite obvious that being a tweeker is a bad idea, some people never recover, and even fewer recover while simultaneously having other people to help absorb the costs of addiction. Love requires wanting what's best, that's easy enough to discern, ask her if she's helping him, that's likely what she wants to be doing, but I'd say up til now, what constitutes help has been inaccurately defined

Answer 2

Sounds like she is going to have to administer some "tough love" to him if she is going to really help him out. He needs to be kicked out of the house, remove all of his belongings and stuff from the house and property and put them on the curb. Let him know he needs to come pick it all up and leave. Have someone at the house with grandma the day this happens to help her in case he gets violent, and maybe to stay with her for a little while to make sure he doesn't get back in. Change the locks on the house, monitor the telephone for his calls and don't accept them.

Short of a restraining order (which is legally the best way to go) this is about it. With a restraining order in place you can call the police each and every time he shows up and have him removed.

Answer 3

She could simply report him to the police - they will come and arrest and take most of his drug stuff for evidence. If he is on probation now, he will probably be put straight back into jail for violation of his probation, so she won't have to worry about him anymore. this would be much more effective than a restraining order which he would probably just ignore.

Or she could simply change the locks, throw all his stuff on the curb or in the nearest dumpster, and refuse to give him money, let him in the house, or listen to his sob stories anymore. Hopefully she has a friend of family member who can give her a hand.

It's not clear if you're saying this addict is her grandson, but regardless, she needs to stop coddling him and let him face the consequences of his actions.

Answer 4

Call the COP's they will come out, escort him off of the property and assist in helping to get a restraining order.

Answer 5

Well if you were really concerned you could call the police and report him yourself. Have some back bone protect your Grandmother for goodness sake! The number by the way in the US is 911. They will take care of the whole thing for you.

Answer 6

Someone needs to drop a dime on the grandson then the cops will remove him for her. doing that to a member of the family is tough but necessary to protect the grandmother and maybe a little jail time will smarten up the little creep and save his life.

Answer 7

Best way is to put his things out on the curb. If by chance the police raid her place she too can be held accoutable for what is in her home even if she was unaware it is there. She needs to call his probation officer and tell them and then have the police involved its called tough love

Answer 8

Tough love is needed here, and it's needed desperately! If he is a meth user, that alone can get him put away, and out of her house. Does his probation officer give him regular drug checks? If somebody were to put that info in front of them, they just might. It would be a violation of his probation and he'd be taken away.

Answer 9

Get a restraining order and go on that show on A&E called intervention, then go on Dr. Phil, then go on Oprah, he can live off the fruit baskets under a bridge.

Answer 10

If she calls the police & tells them what's going on, they will come and ask him to leave. Also, because it's her house, she can allow a full search of the property... he would then be arrested for possession. But this would likely only be necessary if he didn't leave when they first asked.