I'm only 20 years old, engaged to be married in July, and my sex drive has dropped dead. It doesn't seem to matter how hard I try or what I do, I just can't get in the mood. My fiance tells me sex doesn't matter, but I know it does. Things in our relationship are starting to feel stressed and we're barely talking about anything important or even semi-important. I love him so very much and I know he'd never find another woman behind my back, but I hate doing this to him. How do I get my groove back and save my relationship from going downhill any further?
2007-03-14 10:01:42 · 6 answers · asked by Shellbeth1986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like you said you are under a lot of stress and stress kills your sex drive.
2007-03-14 10:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Something turned sex off for you and only you know what it is.When the too of you last made love something got to you and you know what it is.Does he not please you well enough?Try a glass of wine and the too of you talk about things and let the evening flow.See if he will play with you while you are sleep,by the time you wake you will know if it is him.Try different things ,sexy clothing or no clothing and just play around in the house,because sex does matter.I hate to say this part but do not get married until the too of you can figure this out because sex does matter.And this is a way that you show your love to him,by enjoying each other.
2007-03-14 10:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be because your nervous about the wedding and subconciously its stressing you out more than you think. Or you could have started a new secondary from birth control if you take birth control medicine sometimes even if you have used it for a while it can give you a different reaction. Think about any medication your taking or any diet changes that might kill your sex drive if not talk to a therapist you might be under more stress than you think and thats why your sex drive has diminished
2007-03-14 10:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find ways to relax that might help... set up little intimate times with him and by intimate I don't mean sex dates... I mean like have him give you a massage by candle light or something.... (massage oil and in bra/panties or nude... but not a sexual massage, a relaxing one but so he can run his hands all over you caressing your body, paying attention to the small things, like hands, small of your back, even your tummy.... nothing wrong with dropping some kisses along the way either but stay away from the sexual areas)
Stress will kill it and by finding ways to relax it could help, and who knows, perhaps just having him do something to help relieve your stress and touch you in a loving way that's not meant to be sexual it could actually turn out to be a turn on ;)
2007-03-14 10:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult a physician answers you get here are purely speculative.
2007-03-14 10:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try herbs and maybe meds... or try new things u might be a freak and not kno it u might need something hardcore to get u going!.....
2007-03-14 10:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by gspaypal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋