I am a teenager, and I recently changed my style. I used to be a "prep", wore "preppy" clothes and fit the stereotypical "prep" mold. Now, I am dressing more on the "scene kid" style, not because it is cool or popular but because I am comfortable in the clothes, and feel like myself. My friends are suddenly making cracks about how much my appearance has changed, and some are almost avoiding me. I am still the same person on the inside, but now I am wearing what I want. Is there anything wrong with that?
How would I go about dealing with the people who seem to have a problem with this? Also, how do I respond when people ask "Wow, what happened to you?"? I don't want to seem rude to these people, i just want them to accept me.
2007-03-14 09:44:45 · 12 answers · asked by xmake_me_infamousx 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Clue: They are not your friends if they won't accept a cosmetic change...
Find new friends or accept the grief.
2007-03-14 09:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Gotta Question 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look, your still you, not matter what those people think of you. Tell your friends to accept it, or move on. There isn't really a polite way to put it. If they were your friends things like that really wouldn't matter. When someone asks, just say..I'm more comfortable like this...or when they ask, act like they don't know what your talking about. Try reaching out to your friends, let them know your still the same person, they may be worried or afraid that something has happened. Clothes are Clothes...would they be your friend if you wore rags?
2007-03-14 12:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by and2252 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most teenagers are sooo vain
they are snobbish and can't deal with change---maybe that's why they aren't considered adults yet and we prevent them from voting?
anyways, these friends sound way more immature than you---i changed my style many times in high school and experienced the samne kind of crappy ridicule and such---i am glad that you are being true to yourself---your friends are no friends at all as a true friedn would stick by your no matter what (even if you got into a horrible accicent and wwere severely disfigured)---i would continue being you and find some new friends---ones who will accept you no matter what---they are out there :)
2007-03-14 09:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they cant accept you for you forget about it friends come and go but true friends stay forever. Changing the way you act yeah a true friend could leave you. Change your clothes a TRUE friend stays no matter what you look like on the outside.
Makes you think about those "friends"?
2007-03-14 09:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by *Quita_804* 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If people ask what happened to you, just tell them you wanted to be a bit more comfortable. Tell your friends that you have not changed, just your clothes. As others have said, if they cannot accept that then they are not real friends.
2007-03-14 09:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell them exactly what you told us, that you feel comfortable in the clothes and more like yourself. if they cant see that you are still the same person inside, then they are shallow, i hate to say it. im not telling you to give up on them, give them some time to see that you really are the same person. but dont be afraid to branch out either, you may find some common ground beyond the clothes with the other people dressed like you. good luck hon!
2007-03-14 09:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
in case you do no longer care then why are you asking this question? You actual do lol some suggestions of awareness for you chum ditch the scarves and advance some scruff it take you from lady to manly in seconds additionally trim your hair long hair on adult males isn't favourite its bum shity imo you would be waiting to whether be girly and fashionable whether now no longer look like a gay
2016-09-30 22:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by lichtenberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you are in high school. Just say "I am trying something different, what do you think of my new look?" It never hurts to have a friends input. If they are being honest maybe this isn't a really good look for you.
2007-03-14 09:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Consider getting some new friends. Friends who dress like you. Tell them you dont appreciate the jokes anymore and that it is getting old.
2007-03-14 12:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like it, stick with it. The preppy look right now is actually pretty ugly, i think. Your friends should accept you no matter how you look.
2007-03-14 09:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by m h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋