Ok first off, i want to get one thing straight, Im not complaining! I'm askinhg for advice here. But ok here it goes. My mom and i normally get along real well, she does alot for me, and i know i. Im thankful for all i have. But recently, shes been getting mad at me for no reason. Saying stuff like "I don't want to talk to you right now, John, your getting on my nerves" (I'm john) And i understand that,so i go away, then she comes after me and asks me stuff. So normally, i do what she says and go back to whatever i was doing. But she also tells m to shut up because im getting on her nerves if i dont answer with EXACTLY what she wants to hear. I always agree, I dont want to fight so i let her be tough. But how can i get her to treat me like a human.
Remember, Im not complaining!!!. And please dont answer with "you should be thankful, do what she says"
2007-03-14 09:40:06 · 6 answers · asked by John G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mom's are FEMALES, and so can't always be figured out. Depending on YOUR age --around 17 and up--moms seem to go into "kick them out of the nest" mode, and she will nit-pick whatever you do. Is she under any new stress? New job? Illness or death in the family? Is your dad drinking a case of beer every two days? Moms are complex individuals, and sometimes you just have to give them some space and let them deal with their situations. Maybe you could ask HER what has changed in your relationship. Tell her how you feel. She will probably be glad to talk frankly with you. She loves you very much, I'm sure, so give it to her straight.
2007-03-14 09:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by one_dog_grinning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough spot to be in, perhaps it has nothing at all to do with you, perhaps it is work, stress, or all kinds of things and she is taking it out on you (which is also wrong to do).
Perhaps, and only you can answer this, but perhaps you could tell her sometime when she is in a decent mood, how much it hurts your feelings when she says that to you. Might be worth a try, she may not realize how she is making you feel.
2007-03-14 16:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom is under alot of stress because of work, or problems with your dad. When I was little my mom and dad used to fight alot and my mom would blame it on me and tell me to leave her alone so then next time you talk to her ask her to have a talk with her. Tell her how you feel and let her tell you how she feels. Trust me communication is always the right key to a mom and son relationship.
2007-03-14 16:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by april h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe mom has a lot on her mind, going throw the change of life, or is fixing to get her period. If after a week or so shes still acting this way ask her whats wrong she might need to talk about it.
2007-03-14 16:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your mom may be going thur some things you may not know about. us moms try to hide things from you kids and sometimes we may say or do things we shouldn't. try giving her a hug and ask she if needs to talk. it may work
2007-03-14 16:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABC of parenting
http://www.islamicvoice.com/april.2004/young.htm#abc
A lways trust your children to Allah’s care.
B ring them to the Masjids.
C hallenge them to high goals in deen.
D elight in their achievements “Masha`Allah”
E xalt Allah in their presence “Subhaan`Allah”
F rown on evil “ Astaghfirullah”
G ive them love and understanding
H ear their problems, be there for them.
I gnore not their childish fears, tell them Allah is Always there.
J oyfully accept their apologies, Allah is All Forgiving.
K eep their confidence.
L ive a good example before them, Islamic ettiquettes.
Make them your friends.
N ever ignore their endless questions!
O pen your heart to their love.
P ray for them by name, .May Allah make them the coolness of your eyes.
Quicken your interest in their spirituality, Dhikrullah (remberance of Allah)
Remember their needs, show mercy to them
Show them the way of Our Prophet Muhammad and his companions. (peace be upon them All)
T each them to appreciate every little in life. “Alhamdulillah”
U nderstand they are still young and Innocent. “Fitrah”
V erify your statements, speak clearly (Repeat it 3 times) like the way Prophet Muhammad {peace be upon him} used to.
Wean them from bad company.
X eXpect them to obey, Allah and their parents,
Y earn for Allah’s best for them.
Z ealously guide them in the Qur’aan and Sunnah.
2007-03-14 16:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋