im so insecure?

Question

my bf has girls on his myspace and i get jealous 4 no reason.i dont think he talks 2 them.im just think he would chet on me.his cousin says that he would never cheat on me and that he likes me 2 much 2 do it anyways.i love him n all but ithink hes cheating on me.how do i stop bein so insecure?i worry bout all the time how he could get some one better than me.i know im not the prettyiest girl n alll the world.so how do i stop bein so inscure b4 he breaks up with me?

Answer 1

Unless you have a good reason for thinking he'll cheat on you - take his cousin at his word and trust your b/f. Without trust - your relationship will fail. Just talk to your b/f. If he's not talking to them - ask him to delete them from his friends list.

Answer 2

Welllll.....

Boys are like stray dogs sometimes. They like these people & they like those people, but never really lite anywhere. Your insecurity is probably well-founded, but you know what? Boys are also like taxi cabs...there's another one along every 5 minutes!

Like your why do boys like sex so young question, this is sex-related. Now this is MOST boys I'm talkin' about here, I don't mean to say they're ALL this way. Problem is, it's hard to tell which ones are & which ones aren't.

Thing is, as a general rule, if a guy's not getting what he wants from you, he'll get it somewhere else. Plain & simple, girl. Now, you have to decide if he's worth "giving" it. I'm thinking most of them aren't. You give in, he gets off, then he just "gits".

Hold on to your own standards. Look, you make the decisions here. It's your body, not his. It's your life, not his. It's your choice, not his.

Don't worry about his cheating. All the worry in the universe isn't gonna keep him from it if he's a cheater. But, if you're gonna stay in the relationship, trust him until he gives you a reason not to. Then, you know he wasn't worth your time anyway.

Hope this helps you. Just hang tight and be strong in your convictions. The rest will follow.

Answer 3

You should talk to him and tell him how you feel. You both need to figure out what you both need and on where the relationship is going to lead too in the near future. Good communication is the key. Staying together and not telling each other what's on your minds isn't great at all. And don't think that you are insecure just because you think he's cheating, If that's a gut feeling that you have then you need to talk to him about it. If he breaks up with you just by thinking that you are insecure, then he's not the right guy anyways. Wish you much luck.

Answer 4

Listen I know exactly how you feel. Even to the point about myspace. If you take any advise it should be this. If he has given you no reason too be insecure than you should trust him. Sit down and ask him why those girls are on his myspace. I mean are they friends or just girls he hopes to hook up with. Communication is key in a relationship, and if he has nothing to hide than he will tell you straight up. Do you have guys on your myspace? Are they friends or are they guys you think are cute? Insecurities can hurt your relationship more than it can make you guys closer. So stop it unless you have a valid reason to. Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 5

It's not that easy to cheat unless your're rockstar flirting with groupies or a famous athlete at the clubs. regular guys aren't the animals we're made out to be in jokes or tv. It's hard for most guys to get a girl in the first place. I say that if he is cheating, it's probably because he doesn't like you and is just with you because he got in too deep into the relationship. Either that or he was too weak to fight temptation. Anyway stop worrying about it and start making him jealous. If he truly likes you then he will respond. But then again he could just be playing the bf role and not truly being your bf.

Answer 6

I know you should to your BF but about what? If he had something going on he would not let you have access.... you must first have a talk with yourself. Really; I know this sounds strange but for you to be insecure, there is no two way about it.

You do not like the way you look,
You are not sure about your boyfriend.
You don't think you are good enough for him
You know that you are not satisfying his needs...whatever they might be...

If you look at that honestly and do not have to answer any of us, and sort things out, then you will either find out that you have issues you need to work out or he is not being honest ...etc. After this assessment then you can talk to your bf and you will know where to go from there...I think you should relax...altogether.

Answer 7

You can't just stop being insecure. You have to be secure with yourself before you can be secure in your relationship.

Look there's nothing you can do to stop him from cheating, so don't waste your energy and time on worry about that. Let things happen as they do and hope that he loves you as much as you love him. If things change, then act on those actions.

Be confident your good enough for him. To be honest I don't think you should be insecure with him, you should be worried about what the girls do.

Answer 8

If he is on myspace and has girls on his time he may or may not be cheating but if he likes you and it upsets you he would not do it period! ALso you need to like and love yourself for this shows you do not....jealous people do not....learn how to...read up on it....talk to a therapist..forgive yourself for whatever you think or know you did wrong that you are mad at yourself about and move on....the past is past....

Answer 9

Aww..I understand! My boyfriend has alot of girls on his MySpace also..he talks to them..and they're always leaving him comments and saying "love you" at the end of them..and see, he goes to public school and I'm homeschooled..so, I don't know any of these girls!..But, I just started point-blank asking him about it and he's always like "Heck no! I love u baby..that girl's ugly, and I'd NEVER cheat on u!"..So I've learned to trust him..But, if you can't do that, just start adding the girls and being friends with them..They say keep your friends close, but your enemies closer:)..haha=]

Answer 10

if you and your mate are really going for a long term relationship, it is important for you both to monitor your "friends", especially of the opposite sex. it is important, when trying to maintain a healthy relationhsip, that you are confident and secure in yourself before you invest confidence and love into another person. why did your mate fall for you? there was something, and still is, about you that attracted him to u. dont forget that!! just remember that you dont need anyone to tell you that you are pretty or special, even though its nice to be told, for you to feel that way. if ur bf having girls on his myspace bothers you, he should be willing to compromise, especially if he cares for you! remember, though, there are other women in the world and he will come in contact with them!! love yourself, respect yourself and he will see that and try to love you more than u love yourself!! Good luck in life and love!