ok me and my ex john broke up 4-5 months ago and haven't gone back out since. today he got another new gf and was bragging bout it to me on the phone. when i wrote him a note saying that i hope she breaks his heart so he can know how i felt. now he says i'm jealous that i haven't found a new bf and he just got his 4th gf so far!! grrrrrr!!!! its makeing me so mad cause i haven't told him but i'm gonna ask out a guy i know after spring break!!!!! wat can i do cause this jerk of an ex bf is trying to also turn me against my friends even my guy friends(guy friends are just my friends who happen to be guys) i don't know why he's being this big of a jerk!!!! plz help!!!
thanks
Kelse
2007-03-14 09:35:51 · 17 answers · asked by Kelse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Kelse,
Do you still have feelings for your ex? Otherwise it shouldn't bother you so much that he's acting like such a jerk. Whenever he gets a new girlfriend, it sounds like he's doing it purposely to make you feel bad -- 4 girlfriends is a lot in just over 4 months! I think it's safe to say he isn't satisfied with any of the girls he's gone out with since you.
When you and John broke up, did you two decide to stay friends? Or is he just calling you anyway? Though he is accusing YOU of jealousy, it sounds like he's the one who knows he made a mistake and is trying to make himself feel better by treating you poorly. If he wasn't interested in you at all, he wouldn't be calling. I hope you don't choose to go out with him if he asks you out again. John is't a good guy; you can see how he treats girls by remembering how he hurt you in the past, and how he goes from one girl to the next.
Stick with your true girl and guy friends, and keep planning to ask out the other guy after spring break. John is a huge jerk. If I were you, I'd ty to cut all connections with him, especially when you're dating the new guy.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 09:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kelse, sweetie, what is really going on. I mean if he is your ex then let it go and move on with your life. Why should you care how many girlfriends he has had since you two broke up? You don't owe him any explainations about anything. Remember you aren't together anymore, and who cares what he thinks? You shouldn't. Tell him how happy you are for him and move on. If you allow your ex to dictate who can be your friend and who you should have for a friend then what kind of friend are you? Why should you care if he likes your friends or not remember this guy is your ex. Right? If he wants to be a jerk then let him be one but you don't have to play his games or even give into him. You are single so you can do as you please. So what's the problem? Let go of that baggage.
2007-03-14 09:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? he is your ex. My advice is break all ties with him so you can move on. Don't talk on the phone, e-mail or IM, text, or letters, or in person. Tell him that if he contacts you again you will file harassment charges. Then you need to grow up also and stop trying to figure him out. You are exes. True friends stick with you through thick and thin.
GL
2007-03-14 10:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there was a reason for the note except that you are being defensive of his bragging -- you don't need to let him know anything thats going on in your life and visa versa -- live your life seperatly and ignore him..... don't worry about what he says. you shouldn't talk to him if you guys can't be nice to eachother. No matter how annoying things can get.
2007-03-14 09:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok hes doing this cuz u should have never said i hope she breaks ur heart u shouldnt reply to his bragging instead u should say Ahhh ok thats cool and if he keeps going say Ahh did u just get outa prision haha just kidding so listen i gota go ok ill talk to u again though. u have to act like ur so not into it that u dont even have time to NOT care thats how much it doesnt matter to u..although it matters? still act this way..in life u have to act sometimes to pass certain moments without problems
2007-03-14 09:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This might sound a little blunt but you need to STOP communicating with your ex. He is very immature and you deserve better. Sounds like he wants to have a dating competition. We all know that quality is better than quantity anyway.
2007-03-14 09:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by BR 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that's really juvenile. Just avoid your ex. Break off from communication with him, then you won't have to deal with him being a jerk at all.
2007-03-14 09:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if he calls you tell you have nothing to say and hang up. your right he is being a jerk. just don't stoop to his level and be a jerk too. stop the note writing. go on with your life.if your "friends" are listening to him then they are not friends. if he sees that your are getting upset, he will keep on. stay cool
2007-03-14 09:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my ex look just ignore him.. ignoring a person is the best thing you can do i bet you he is only going out with those girls to see if he could make you jealous so dint give him the satisfaction
2007-03-14 09:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants you to be jealous! Your best bet would be to cut off communication with him and move on with your life. You may not have been seeing someone because he is still in you life. Its your life go and reclaim it!
2007-03-14 09:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by JEN P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋