The agency that put me with her said they'd be happy to reassign me when my term runs out at the end of the month. My boss is difficult, arrogant, dishonest and not all that smart. I don't want to work for her any longer than I have to. She would like me to stay another month. I can't handle this anymore. She is the worst communicator and despite being a good enough person, I can't stand being across a conference table from her. I want to give her some constructive criticism, but should I even bother?
2007-03-14 09:30:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
OK, you don't want to burn bridges but you can't really tolerate anyone like that. What is your problem with her? Is her character? or is it that you just dislike her?
What you could say is that while you have enjoyed the brief time you were there, a long term assignment would tax you because there are certain things that go against your values...such as:
dishonesty, and name some example, making sure you have no dishonesty in your life.
Negativity, name some example and again make sure you don't do it...
Make sure that you tell her you like her, but that those kind of things would interfere with your ability to do the best job you could for the company.
Having been a boss, many times, I think that I would like my employees to tell me this way.
2007-03-14 11:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl Durham, Ph.D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even bother with the criticism. You are almost out of there. It is best to leave on good terms. Don't burn bridges. You never know when you will need a reference. Besides, you have to think about what it is that you want to happen if you tell her what you are thinking. If you think she will not value your observations, then move on and just keep in mind what kind of boss you would be, should you become one. :) The business world is a small place. You just never know, you could be working with this person again or work for someone who knows this individual. Politely thank her for the opportunities she provided and be as professional as possible. Let her know that you are committed to another assignment next month and your end date of your current term is fixed. So much is said for first impressions, but it is the last impression that makes the impact. Go out gracefully! You will be glad that you did!
2007-03-14 11:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by sassychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Leave with grace. Your remarks will not change anything. You may need her to write a letter of recommendation so leaving on good terms can really help you out.
Thank her for the opportunity to work for the company. Tell her that you wish you could stay longer but an opportunity has come up that allows you take the next in your career.
Good Luck. SD
2007-03-14 11:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Patti. You don't have any contractual obligations to stay there longer, so don't do it out of being nice. You're not doing yourself any favours. You don't have to give excuses, but if you feel you have to, just tell her that an opportunity became available to you that you simply can't pass up (*that opportunity being able to stop working there! *but don't say that :)
Trust me, it makes a world of a difference to work for a respectful, honest, intelligent and good-natured boss. Your days will be brighter and your moods will be lifted and you will be more motivated to do your job well.
I would advise against making any constructive criticisms to her, she very likely might take it personally and then you may not be able to use her as a reference.
2007-03-14 09:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave when your month is up. It is hard to deal with an arrogant, dishonest person. If you try to give her constructive criticism, she will surely turn the tables on you.
2007-03-14 10:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest a donkey-punch? Often times when skirts are given a decent salary (equal to half that of a man) they will become edgy or even combative in the workplace. They are merely trying to secure their place among their peers, and justify their own self-worth. If the donkey-punch does not work, try just giving her a pat on the *** and telling her "Good Job Babe".
2007-03-14 15:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your agency tell her they are reassigning you. They take a percentage of the money you earn so make THEM do the talking. PLUS this allows them to soften the blow and not mess up relations with this client for them. The agency will be happy and so will you.
2007-03-14 10:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can be re-assigned the just go when the month is up. i wouldn't bother going into the whys. People never see themselves as being arrogant and you'll be wasting your breath.
2007-03-14 17:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite and say that you have prior plans that make it impossible for you to do so. You don't have to tell her that the prior plans are to get away from her as quickly as possible. You do, however, have to be polite in case you need a reference from her later down the road.
2007-03-14 09:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by watanake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even bother. Leave when your month is out. If she asks you why, tell her you have other plans. Don't be critical, you may need a reference from her.
2007-03-14 09:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋