hi..ok so im jsut wondering...my ex n I were each others first loves n then we broke up after 2 1/2 yrs of being together. he then called me in july 05 (after 2 months of not talking) and we have been basically together since. we had lots of drama during our relationship n we both made mistakes that we have apologized for. we started getting serious in december but he is still not ready to give me a title of being his gf. he says that i can call it dating or seeing each other. he says that he is committed to me tho like there are no other girls n im his only girl. i kno he loves me n he is tryin but sometimes our arguements suck. he is going thru alot rite now wit his health and family and he is tryin with me but he says hes not ready for the title. we do everything couples do we are together. the problem is im goin thru this insecurity problem wit him like i feel real insecure and i dont know if its b/c i dont have the title. i always give in but he does his part 2. any advice??
2007-03-14 09:27:16 · 5 answers · asked by Fahion_Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how long do i wait for him? i want to be there for him but this whole insecurity thing is killing me i always let him be the one in control. he has this thing where hes always tryin to make me a stronger person so i feel insecure goin to him wit my feelings n everything. he really broke down cuz hes scared of his health and i know hes sincere n i love him but i jsut dont want to get hurt. what would you do??
2007-03-14 09:29:00 · update #1
Its hard but dont wait forever. If he is not willing to give you what you deserve and desire dont just let him have his cake and eat it too. Be cautious and try not to get hurt. Its hard when feelings are involved. How such a simple thing like a title in ones eyes can make all the difference. I feel your anguish. I really do. Try to give it as much time as you can and express to him your feelings. Just dont express them too much cause then you seem crazy like me:) Thats what i do
2007-03-14 09:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Evilish13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't be insecure because you dont have the title of being his girlfriend. Who cares? if you are into him and he's into you and neither one of you is screwing around, then it shouldnt be an issue. You could be just as insecure with the title of his girlfriend as you are without it. You guys need to build up a relationship on a foundation of trust and honesty, not drama.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 09:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by beckyvincenzes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about him, and tell him that you'd like to be his girlfriend. But if he still is reluctant to commit into the title, then ask yourself what is more important to you. Would the title make your love for him stronger? Would if make you feel less insecure? Would you leave him if he didn't call you his girlfriend? No one can tell you how long you should wait for him. It all depends on how you feel about him and what your relationship means to you. Just think about it.
2007-03-14 09:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not worth the title to him then he's not that serious about you. you can be there for him through his health problems but you're not doing yourself any favors by hanging around. you're stifling yourself and your need for a true commitment. you love him but arguing all the time is a sign that together is not what you two should be. get out get free and stay single for at least a year....find yourself who you are...take a class, learn to knit, spend time with friends but don't get serious with anyone for a year...in a year you'll find that you know yourself alot better and you'll be able to find someone who suits your wants, needs and desires....i know its the hardest thing to do but well worth it.
2007-03-14 09:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by fllfigchk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you meet him on myspace?
2007-03-14 09:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋