What are the odds of this working out. Mind you, we are Christians he knows I am celibate. However; we spend a lot of time together, we even spent the nght together, no sex, no fondling alot cuddling. He states marriage is far off, for him but his actions say he wants to be with me, kind of goes back and forth, oneday he's like I miss you, can't stop thinking of you, next day it's like we are buddies again? Very indecisive
2007-03-14 09:20:14 · 25 answers · asked by The Mrs. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Play it by ear...give it time...who know what the future holds?
2007-03-14 09:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reality Check!
What is your intention? If marriage is a long way off for him then what is your hope? That he will commit to a long term relationship with you until he is ready for marriage and stay faithful and celibate with you in the meantime? Fat chance.
You might say you are waiting but he thinks he can change your mind.
Stop leading the kid on. Accept the compliment that a young man is hot for you and drop him.
Age is not the issue here. You need to find someone that is on your time-line for marriage.
2007-03-14 16:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i mean i guess you have to take into consideration that he is 24, which may explain his behavior as far as one day cold one day hot. maybe they are not as comfortable with themselves and relationships at that age ya know? unless they are use to dating women that are a little older than them or hang out with older friends. I think that if you are comfortable with this relationship then you could stay in it for a little longer and feel things out, but keep in mind, 24 sounds kind of like the party stage, while at 30 we just want a drink at the bar or take home a 12 pack and a movie for Friday night. Also that you are at the marrying or pregnancy age where you think about it right? well if you are thinking about marrying him,, which i know is a far way off for you too, keep in mind that in 5 years he will still be in his 20's and MAY OR MAY NOT be ready, where you will be almost 40 and still wishing. so this age thing can be a little tricky, but not at every age. like if he was 35 and you were 40 it would be different ya know? If you are ok with that, then cool. but i would say think it over.
2007-03-14 16:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no real harm in dating this young man, but clearly, he is not as mature as you are and has told you, up front, that marriage is a long way off for him. I think you're on shakey ground with the cuddling, too, to be perfectly truthful. He's indecisive....and there's your decision. Date him casually if you wish, but I don't think you're looking at the right guy if you're looking for a real partner or husband. He's just not ready yet.
2007-03-14 16:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure... there's 8 years between my wife and I but I am the older one so it's a little different than your situation. If your satisfied with his maturity level then the next thing you need to think about if whether or not you want kids and if he's comfortable with you time line and needs in that area. If you're on the same page with those things then I'd say go for it.
2007-03-14 23:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lakah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on his maturity level. My husband is 2 1/2 years younger than me and we had been dating almost 6 years before we got married. We were first started talking he was 14. We got along great and it was all good. Same scenerio different mindset; my friend was dating his friend and they only last 4 months. It honestly depend on the people involved and if they are willing to "fight" for theirs. If you can't or won't stand up for each other or play it off like you are "buddies/friends" then no, it won't last at all and is not worth your time.
2007-03-14 16:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it might be fun for a while, but you might end up turning into a mommy figure after a while, especially since he has allready showed signs of indecisiveness. I would say enjoy it for what it is, but don't get to attatched ;)
2007-03-14 16:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by derangdlilmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a 6-yr. age different & i don't see anything wrong w/ it. =) He's old enough to be mature in the relationship & stay faithful. Actions speak louder than words. He may have his morals, but if he likes you, he can't help blowing some of them away. â¥
2007-03-14 16:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age gap is ok but I don't think you should date an indecisive guy. You're just gonna waste your time.
2007-03-14 16:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Follow your heart. He seems like a good guy. My man is 5 years younger than me. I am 28, he is 23. We are happy.
2007-03-14 16:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by Navulam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very fickle 24 year old. There is nothign wrong with the age gap though seeing as how you are both over 18.
2007-03-14 16:24:01 · answer #11 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋