When she is already with someone else now, even though she won't tell me and I already know. She says she's not but I'm not dumb. Why does she care so much that I need to forgive her, I told her I'm not ready to forgive her right now. I'm still angry and mad at her for leading me on the last 7 months. Funny thing is I broke up with her, and then after she led me on I tried to get back together with her and she stabbed me in the back and kicked me when I was down. What is it with women? I would just love to find one that sticks by you during hard times. It seems hardly any of them do! They say do, but "girls just want to have fun". Like, I really hate her sometimes i just get so angry and mad at what she did, why should I even forgive her. For what purpose? I try to get her out of my head, but somehow she keeps slipping back in. I wish I could just erase her from my memory.
2007-03-14 09:16:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She wants you to forgive her so she can have a clear conscience and start a fresh with her new man. My ex husband is like this (so men do it to). Unfortunately you can't erase the past so you must just learn to live with the memory (it will take some time and getting used to)
If you don't want to forgive her then don't, just ignore her (don't answer her calls or emails) and she will soon get the idea.
2007-03-14 09:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably needs your forgiveness so that she can forgive herself. The only person you are hurting by not forgiving her is yourself. You can forgive her , but that doesn't mean that you will ever trust her again. The relationship you had before is gone forever. Yes, you could start a new one with her, but why set yourself up for more hurt? But you do have to clear your heart of the bad feelings so as not to permanently scar yourself. Learn from your mistakes, try not to lump all females into one catagory..each person is different. and remember that actions speak louder than words. Time will tell. If it was meant to be than it will be. Leave yourself open to all possibilities, but don't be a fool..her words have little meaning..it is her actions that speak the truth. Love and hatred are very close, both require a strong feeling to exist. Personally, I think you did the right thing in breaking it off with her. She doesn't sound like the girl for you. You will find the one for you when you least expect it. And when you do find her, you will know deep inside that it is right for you. Give yourself time, and stay true to your ideals. As for her, she'll reap her just rewards.
2007-03-14 09:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
The longer you hold on to that anger the longer it will take you to find love again .
And for the record you are all wrong about women . As a woman myself I stick by the people that I love in hard times and all and would dare dream of hurting anyone . But on the other hand it seems that I am the one getting hurt .
Find it in your heart to forgive her and then move on . Even if you never tell her you forgive her just let it go .
Good Luck
C
2007-03-14 09:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋