my son is 10 years old and autistic [mildly] he can act up and on occasion has an attitude. The School have no idea how to handle him and always call him disruptive, if there is a problem -blame my son. Today I discovered the most appalling thing. While my son is excluded for two days the rest of the class was encouraged to write about my son, i.e what has he done and what is he like, I am sickened and appalled - is this legal?
2007-03-14 09:16:24 · 44 answers · asked by Tapsy 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I think it's absolutely terrible, go to your local education authority and complain.
2007-03-14 09:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
My god! I can't belive this. How awfully insensitive. I would be demanding to see absolutely everything that was written and then I'd want to see how they were going to put it right because some of these kids may now have had ideas put into their head that were not even an issue before. This may have put your son in an awful position where they all now see him as 'trouble'.
I am truly disgusted! This is tantamount to bullying by the very people that are supposed to prevent it. It would seem to me that he has been 'singled' out for discussion by people not appropriate to discuss him (especially not in a group so young) and I would be asking for this teachers' head on a damned plate.
Put in another context, what if they had discussed the local 'kid in a wheelchair' or the 'kid with the disfigurement'. Just because your son has what could be seen as a 'mental' (wanted much better description/word) issue does not mean that he can be treated differently.
2007-03-14 09:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, before going down to the school and making a fuss, check a few things out.
How did you find this out? Is your source reliable? Have you got the full story? Because you'll only look silly if you haven't got this right.
Also be honest with yourself. You love your son and want to do the best for him. It's not always easy to judge the behaviour of those we love objectively. Find out the nature of his disruption and attitude your son is supposed to have displayed.
Your son has rights and the school must pay heed to them. Equally, the rest of the children in the class have rights and if their learning is being affected by your son's behaviour (whether he means it or not) should they not be considered?
Talk to the school in a calm, businesslike manner and you might get answers. Go in with all guns blazing and you're more likely to get arrested.
This is probably not what you wanted to hear - but I hope you think it's more useful than suggestions that you march down to the school with an army of lawyers.
2007-03-14 10:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The school have a duty of care to your son and they are not allowed to ridicule or make examples of the children.
I would write a letter of complaint to the head of the school and copy in your local education board.
But at most the best you will get is an apology (sickening)
Are there any special schools in your area where they can offer the support your son needs? Speak to your local authority about this they maybe able to suggest something.
I wish you luck and hope your boys ok x
2007-03-14 09:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by vixwood1979 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go get an attorney as soon as possible and then I would call the school board. I would also contact every media outlet in your area and tell them the story. I have a nephew who is autistic and he goes to special classes. I could never sit by and watch this happen to another child. You need to contact every newspaper, t.v. station and radio station and let the public know what has happened to your son. It may just be the teachers fault but they should not be left in charge of your son or anyone else's child again.
Good Luck and although I know it is of little comfort to you, everyone I know is outraged at this event.
2007-03-14 09:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be appalled....................so would I be.! If I were you, I would make a strong complaint. You can ask someone else or an organisation such as a Citizen's Advice Bureau to make a complaint on your behalf, and you can ask a Council officer if you need some help in preparing your complaint.
Generally, if you are making a complaint about a school you must direct it to the school. You can easily find their contact details in the online schools directory.
Each school will have a complaints procedure that, as a parent of a pupil at the school, you are entitled to request a copy of. The procedure will tell you who to direct the complaint to and when you could expect the response by.
2007-03-14 09:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this makes me sad i would speak to a solicitor as soon as possible then arrange a meeting with the headmaster or mistress also the teacher involved explain to them you should be helping my son not make an example out of him the teacher should not be teaching in the first place also if your son is mentally ill the teacher should make exceptions for him and brief the class she should tell the class to look after him also some of the older boys to keep an eye on him if this does not happen find another school that will hope this helps and good luck
2007-03-14 20:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by danny boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it is very unethical.But I dont know about illegal.if I was you.I would be talking to the principal and letting him know that this is unacceptable and if it happens again you are gonna sue.I would believe you would have grounds for that.
Also contact the school board and express your concerns.I dont know if you already have or not,but have the school give him an IEP test.You could have him put in special classes with teachers (who are supposed to be trained to deal with these type of children).
I would not let this go without finding out some answers and insuring that it doesnt happen again.
2007-03-14 09:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is autistic, then he's got some special needs and you should consider schools that can provide him with the support and help he needs. If you really want him to go in a traditional school, you might expose him to bullying, loss of confidence and so on. Of course, the attitude of his school is unacceptable and appropriate action must be taken.
But ask yourself the question: Is my son happy in that school? That is the problem. If he is, fight as much as you can for his full integration and that he receive appropriate help (those with special needs can have an adult to help them throughout their day.
Courage
2007-03-14 10:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Pelayo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may not be a law explicitly forbidding it, but it sounds like institutionalized child abuse by the school. Discuss a lawsuit with a legal expert. Make a public complaint about harassment of a disabled child to the authorities and have medical evidence of his autism to support the accusation. Elected school officials hate that and will often do everything they can to correct the situation. Perhaps you can get them to send your son to a special school which is able to deal with his condition.
If you can show evidence of their treatment of your son you should be able to get justice. If not , try home-schooling or pay for a special school. I hope you get justice, other ways can be expensive.
2007-03-14 14:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Taganan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are in the wrong. I would speak to the administration and let them know what is going on. Also, I would save my time and energy with trying to fight this with the school board, as they will just give you the run-around. They should be trying to work with your son's disability, rather than against him. If they don't comply, hire a lawyer, get an organization on your side, and the school will be very sorry they messed with you!
2007-03-14 11:07:19 · answer #11 · answered by lovemytc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋