Firstly, should i tell this girl i have Pectus Excavatum (sunken chest) before we start getting romantically involved, things get serious?
Secondly, will it bother her. Girls would it bother you, if you found out the boy you fancied had a deformed chest?
I don't want her to get her hopes up then find out i'm a physical freak, i would feel guilty for allowing her to fancy me, without knowing all the facts about me.
2007-03-14 09:11:27 · 23 answers · asked by YMe? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, if it bothers you and you want to get serious with her, then tell her. Wait until you are feeling close to her and have got to know her. Tell her you have something to talk to her about and you find it really difficult but you really like her so you need to talk. Gage her reaction as you go along. Don't make too big a thing of it, like calling it Pectus Excavaturm. It sounds like an an engineering project. Sunken chest is much better. And that is all it is. No you are not a freak and no you are not deformed.
If you met a girl who wore a padded bra and was not all she seemed would it bother you? No. So stop putting yourself down and start living your life. Let us know how it all goes.
Take care x x
2007-03-15 01:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have thought that possibly you would have maybe already told her! I think if you are going to get that serious then I would think you would want a person to know these things,especially if it bothers you, and it evidently does or you would not have posted the ? If she is that serious enough about you and really cares enough to get that romantically involved with you then she should know before you go any further. Then if she is really that in to you it will not matter. If it does then she's definitely not the person for you.That's for sure!Love comes with faults and the whole bag. If it's just a fling then I can't answer that!
2007-03-14 09:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you've known her for.
First of all, what you have to think is, if you think that its gonna be a problem then maybe shes not the right person for you to be with.
It shouldn't bother her, if she really likes you.
Don't worry about it, have fun with her and if things do get serious then let her find out. If it bothers her, just move on. There will be someone who won't be bothered by it.
Good Luck!
2007-03-14 09:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Mummy ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do the words physical freak come from? You have a slight problem which shouldn`t bother any girl worth knowing.
Get your self esteem up. You sound as though you have a great personality or you wouldn`t have asked the question. Tell her/don`t tell her it won`t matter if she likes you.
It wouldn`t have bothered me at all.
2007-03-14 09:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I checked some photos of the condition. The more severe cases can look strange, but that wouldn't bother me much. If you were nice and I felt a connection it certainly wouldn't stop me from dating you. And you're not a freak, I think the problem is your self-esteem rather than your chest. It makes the issue seem bigger than it really is.
2016-03-28 23:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first started going out with this bloke he told me strait away that he had... (i cant spell it so i will say exma cause its the closest thing).. all over his body.. it really bothered him and when he was trying to tell me i could tell that it was hard for him and that he thought i wouldn't want to be with him.. but it didn't bother me at all and before i knew what i was doing i kissed a part of his arm that it affected.. no problem.. i liked him and wasn't going to let it get in the way and i hopefully gave him a bit more confidence.. just tell her,, and hopefully she will make you feel better about it too :)
2007-03-14 10:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by jem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her... then it wont come to a suprise when you do get to that stage. if she really likes YOU and she hasnt even seen your chest yet then it shouldnt bother her, it wouldnt bother me. slight tans make everything look better... dont get me wrong DONT go all tango lol but mayb that will boost your confidence about your chest! and last of all.... just because you have this it doesnt make you a physical freak! you are just shy and self confident about it and worry what others will think of it... if you find it does bother this girl.. dont let it get you down its her loss she fancied you for you... shes just being picky and going for the small....not important details... email me and let me know how you get on, click on my pic and email me frm ther k GOOD LUCK!! =D
2007-03-14 09:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it wouldn't bother me. But if you feel comfortable enough to tell her then do so.
Your not a physical freak. If she don't like you for YOU then stuff her and move on. Good luck with her
2007-03-14 09:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, it wouldn't bother me, please, I am not that shallow, and I hope that this girl isn't. if she likes you and if you are a great guy, she won't care. but the only way to find out is by telling her (in the conversation, don't give her the medical diagnosis, just tell her what she might see). if she cares, or if it bothers her, she was never really worth of your attention.
2007-03-14 10:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by mimma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if a really liked a guy i wouldn't care what deformities he had...
My suggestion would be to sit down, tell her that you really like her and explain what it is. If she really likes you and is not shallow then i don't think she would have a problem with it... she would probably respect your honestly.
Good luck
2007-03-14 09:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋