My boyfriend and I have always had a great relationship - very open and loving. He's in Iraq now, and things started out great. Now, for the past two weeks all we've been doing is fighting. I recently turned 21, and lied to him about boys being around that night - i feel terrible for lying, but I wanted to steer clear of an unnecessary fights (obviously i only caused one). Then he saw a picture of me and a girlfriend kissing each cheek of one of the guys that was there. It was an innocent picture, but it upset him. We had been fighting about it for awhile, and we finally made up the other day. Now, out of no where, he tells me that he thinks that I am falling for another guy, and just keeping my boyfriend as a type of secrity net - which really offends me considering Ive been nothing but faithful for the 4 months he's been gone. Anyway, all we do fo rthe past 2 weeks is fight. I need to know how to make it better. he really is my everything - and I love him with all of my heart.
2007-03-14 09:11:14 · 3 answers · asked by beckyvincenzes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's really tough. My guess would be that you are arguing about things that don't matter to avoid arguing about the things that do. For instance, his emotional state given his location, stresses on him from his job there and being in what must be a very stressful place.
First, tell him in no uncertain terms what you just wrote us--he's your everything. Then, ask about his feelings and what he's going through. It's very likely that he needs a hero to step up and not argue when he's argumentative.
2007-03-14 09:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, tell him what you said here.
Try to be very careful in what comes into the relationship right now, as I am sure it is scary for him also (as for you) with the 2 of you seperated for a while.
Perhaps address his concerns, as in, if someone says you are doing something (falling for another guy) if you get defensive it could be taken the wrong way, but if you tell him you understand his concern, and that is something that could never happen, etc...
Guess I am trying to say a soft answer may be the best one, as a harsh one may be taken the wrong way, since you two are so far away.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 16:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. I would copy-paste all of what you just said into a letter to him because if you tell him how faithful you are he should trust you. Keep insisting to him you love him more than anyone and he is your everything (as your description says)
2007-03-14 16:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by soccergod7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋