Here's the situation: Basically, my girlfriend is the busiest woman on Earth. She works full time and goes to school full time so basically the only time I see her is on Friday night and usually most of the day Saturday.The type of program she's in there is a lot of extra curricular activities and some weekends she has class all weekend. So we don't really get to spend any quality time together and it's really starting to get to me. Our relationship has changed since she started school and it's not that we don't get along. She is such an amazing woman and both of us are head over heels in love. But she just has no time for me. What can I do? What should I do?
2007-03-14 09:10:59 · 15 answers · asked by kungfumasterzod 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A way to look at it, is that school is temporary. Yes it sucks right now but love shouldn't be cast aside without a fight. Talk to her and let her know what's bothering you, maybe she can cut back a little. If her work environment is relaxed, go see her at work sometimes, or bring her lunch. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you give it your best. Good luck
2007-03-14 09:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Luviticus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let her know that you'd like to spend more time with her so she is aware that you are being deprived. It's also important that you tell her that you are there to support her in any way possible. It could be that she's overlooking certains tasks that you could help her with, such as library work, school projects, providing transportation, etc. My husband use to help me do research while I was in school, prepared meals for me when I was on the go, etc. You love this girl, so you are willing to stick in there for the long haul. It may be just a matter of communicating how you feel without putting too much pressure on her. Good Luck
2007-03-14 16:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very tough situation. I was going to tell you to talk to her, however the things she does, she can't really stop just to spend time with you. If you can bear it for a little bit and if she's worth the wait, I would be patient with her because she's not going to be busy like that forever. But it will require a lot of patience on your part, if you can't stand the wait, maybe you guys should take a break on dating for a little bit so there is less pressure. Goodluck.
2007-03-14 16:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are as head over heels as you say you are, waiting will not be a big deal because you have your whole lives in front of you. If she spends every moment she isn't at school with you then it sounds like she is comitted. Get a hobby, sounds to me like you sit home waiting for her to show up, but yet her life is moving without you. So accept the way things are and be patient.
2007-03-14 16:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold her back, education is very important. If you are truly head over heels in love then this short time will not matter. Let her excel and both of you will reap the benefits later!
2007-03-14 16:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rhonda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing! It seems like she is hard working, determined and doing well for herself. Which should be good for the relationship down the line. She definitely sounds like the kind of women I would want. Support her and be there when she needs you. I think that is the best thing to do. Find things to occupy your time for now. It won't be like this forever!
2007-03-14 16:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing what she feels right for her career. I'm sure you are doing the same even though your may require less time. If you truly love her you will stick by her and wait til things calm down. If not you might want to leave.
2007-03-14 16:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait it out, she getting her career on the go its tough now but if you stick by her she won't forget it and it will bring you even closer when she's done school and does have the time, you never know you might be the one in a couple of years that will pursuing your dreams won't you hope that she would stick by you, its tough love but at least its for real.
2007-03-14 16:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her , dont hold her back from success in life. She wont always be this busy, its probably just a time in her life where she is.
What little time you do have with each other, make it special. She will love you more for being there for her.
2007-03-14 16:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by Navulam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the love is as strong as you say then you need to support her and hang in there till school is done. its all gonna be worth it someday. have you thought of a club you can join in the meentime? look into that. stay strong and keep the faith in the relationship.
2007-03-14 16:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by privateone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋