I hv a frnd who calls me only when she is frustrated and irritated with others so she needs an ear to listen to her and a shoulder to cry on. Otherwise she is always busy and find hard to call me. B4 I used to give her lots of attention and care but I am hurt by her behaviour so I stopped texting her (I used to text her daily) and when she calls me I dont answer immediately I text her after some hours or I reply to her next day.
I somehow have a chance now to express how I feel abt all this but I can express in an indirect way.. like she is going through the same situation now her family is not having time for her not even 15mins and she is hurt.
She wants her pple to understand her and give her attention and time.
Now I can make her realise indirectly that she has been treating me the same way how her pple treating her now.
So give me hints and ideas to put across mt feeling in an indirect way. plz plz help
2007-03-14 08:52:41 · 4 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, I think everybody has encountered such a friendship in their life, so have I. if you tell her directly she will probably just be offended and get angry, so what you can do is say that you sometimes felt what she feels now and let her draw the conclusion. if that doesn't work, just tell her exactly how you feel.
2007-03-14 11:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by mimma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend a bit like that maybe she thinks of me in the same way we used to be very close telling each other our problems, I must admit hers were all about the man she is living with and the same all the time I would listen only i did get sick of it. I have problems only all different sorts with family and she may have got sick of that. I rang a few weeks ago and she was telling me that she was not well and was going for a test, after she had it I sent a text saying maybe she didn't want to talk at the minute she replied that she didn't and would text me when she did as she was sore, she hasn't. She knew I was going to the hospital and hasn't even bothered. I don't see why it must always be me and not her. I am not a nasty person at all even others are surprised at me not hearing from her as they ask how she is. As far as you then I would leave it be and see what happens.
2007-03-14 09:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you can express your feelings whenever YOU choose to. And if you do not do it directly then the person will likely continue doing what they have been doing. Even big hints will not help as they will see their own behavior differently and not get the hint. They may sit there agreeing with you that 'people like that are horrible,' thinking you are just being sympathetic to their problem.They will only understand when you tell them 'I can understand why you are hurt because that is how you have treated me for a long time.' Take responsability for your feelings and communicate them clearly.
2007-03-14 09:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by sepowens1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind so I would tell her how it is for you right now perhaps she will just stop for once & consider the position she put you in.
2007-03-14 09:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋