Okay. I have this really close friend who's a guy. He's dating one of my best friends, and it's obvious that they really like each other. But me him pretty much talk more than him and his girl. We flirt, text, talk on the phone, and are always "partners in crime" at school (we don't really do crime just in case you don't get that!). And I don't even initiate it! He flirts back and texts back and whatnot. My best friend is getting jealous, which I would be too if someone were doing that with my guy, so I sent an email to the guy friend telling him that we shouldn't talk anymore because of all the drama. People are telling ME that I should back off because he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend, and it's mean to do that. I don't neglect anyone for him, so it's not like that. And his girlfriend is mad at me and has ignored me all week because of this. Did I make a mistake telling him that? And if I did, how can I fix it? We were such amazingly close friends! <3
2007-03-14 08:52:05 · 19 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay away from him and tell your best friend it has always been innocent but since you don't want anyone to get the wrong idea, you've stopped. Tell her that her friendship means more and you wouldn't do anything to hurt her.
Unless you're really just a skanky ho -- then keep doing what you've been doing.
2007-03-14 08:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by geoxena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya you probably did make a mistake by telling him that, you should have just backed off and if he kept pursuing you and wanting to talk to you instead of your best friend, his girlfriend, then you should have said, look we are great friends, but we are both in relationships with other people that deserve the attention we are giving each other. I am sure that your BF or his girlfriend is upset with you because you basically told him that people are mad because you feel he likes you more than he likes his girlfriend. That would have hurt my feelings too. Only time can fix it now... I would just back off and see what happens.
2007-03-14 16:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by ~Lizzy~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like rather than amazingly close friends, you would want to be amazingly close partners... not in crime, but in a relationship. I don't think that you necessarily need to back off, but you both need to talk about how you really feel about one another, which I believe from what you've described above, is much, much more than a friend.
You should let your friend, who your amazingly close friend is dating, that you and him have always had a very close relationship and she should respect that you are not going to let anyone come between that.
You need to let your boyfriend know that you text this guy often and that he texts you back.
You can't just be fair to your feelings and not everyone elses. You have to put yourself in her shoes and see how you would feel if she were your boyfriends "amazingly" close friend.
Would it bother you? I think so.
2007-03-14 15:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I thought I was the only one with this problem the only difference is that I'm married, got separated and during that time we got way closer(my friend and I) plus he had broken up with his girl around the same time that me and my husband did, we where there for each other through thick & thin I kinda noticed that we both where falling for each other but I was scared of losing a good friendship so instead I hooked him up with my closest cousin and got back with my husband... now I think I made the BIGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE because I havent stopped thinking of him/feeling for him to top it off we cant really talk to each other anymore cause my cusin gets jealouse and my husband hates him it's like they know it or something and not only that but now there getting married in April which is killing me!!! I think you should take a chance on him, if you like him and he likes you go for it you'll regret it afterwards if you don't, believe me!!!
2007-03-14 16:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Cute 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I think you did the right thing by telling him, it's not like you were doing it all alone so he needs to know that what he's doing is upsetting his girlfriend. It's cool that you guys were friends but as you said, you wouldn't like it if it was done to you so you should probably back off for awhile. That's not to say you guys can't be friends but you should tone it down a notch. You should also talk to your friend about it and reassure her that you guys are just friends and that you wouldn't do that to her and apologize for not noticing how your behavior was making her feel.
2007-03-14 15:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok sounds like your in a sticky situation!! what does your boyfriend say>??? you shouldnt be flirting with other boys if you have a boyfriend... but thats besides the point!! maybe back of for 2 or 3 days and see how things go... things will eventually work themselves out. but dont create more drama than there needs to be!!! there is no reason for it and you will end up getting in trouble in the end!!!!! just step back and let things unfold!
2007-03-14 15:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Saritah Bonita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you did make a big mistake rather said stupid... i did the same thing too with my bf who also seems to be a guy... we were in the same situation... and ppl will talke cuz they are jealous... they will judge you a tell you that you where wrong for doing alot of stuff.... but you just didn't want to hurt him or yourself right? so i suggest you say sorry to him and go back to doing crimes and making other ppl's life miserable...lol... and others will just have to understand that somethings are just meant to be and that they can't fight against it... and remember... nothing hurts your enemies more than when you treat them good...
2007-03-14 16:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Wenke_91 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you made a mistake and you shouldn't be friending a guy like that who has a girlfriend. you did the right thing and you should explain to him why you had to do what you did (i can't believe he doesn't get it. how old is he?)
2007-03-14 15:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by puzzlite 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well just come clean o ur best friend and tell her that though u do like him and stuff, u would rather have her as a friend and guys come and go but u will always love her (as a friend)!!!!!!
2007-03-14 16:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe this guy friend of urs needs to stick up for u if his gf is giving u all this crap. after all, he is "really close" to u. he needs to help u through this and stick up for u.
2007-03-14 15:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by gina_d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋