They don't wanna do their homeworks, they just wanna play all the day. Computer, watching TV, or when they must do their homeworks, they say they're hungry, they must drink juice, they must finish at computer...
2007-03-14 08:44:12 · 17 answers · asked by pislaru_cecilia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like my son when he gets home from school. I let him have a small snack, and then he says can I watch some TV or play my video game, the answer is NO! I make him do his homework before anything else and you should too. If they really want to play video games, go on the computer, or watch TV they need to do quality homework no rush jobs my son is 6 and I started this with him and I'll do the same for my others once there in school. Tell the kids like I tell my son that TV, video games, and the computer are privilages you have to earn it's not a necessity/priority. Take control of the situation now because YOUR THE BOSS! Your kids should already know that.
2007-03-14 09:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by missingNYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This where you as the parent need to gear it up and let the kids know who pays the bills and makes the rules in the house. There's no way the kids should be acting like this when you're the parent you say what goes on in your house. You let the kids know that there are going to be consequences for things like if they don't finish their homework they can't go outside and play, if they don't finish their house chores they can't play on the computer or watch tv. If you have to take away their privileges then so be it and when it's gone long enough then your children will comply.
You don't allow your kids to walk over you because you are the one who feeds, clothes, educates, and puts a roof over their heads. If they want to cut up and act a fool then when they turn 18 they can do that in their own house, but as long as they're living under your roof and you and your husband or partner pays the bills they have to comply with that. If they want things their way take it to Burger King because you're not negotiating them to getting what they want all the time.
If they want to toss a fit when you shut the tv off and say it's time for home work or to do chores around the house then tell them you can expect not to watch any tv for the rest of the week. You should have a system in place to let your kids know the minute they walk into the house they're to sit down and do their homework and there's no tv or leisure computer time(with the exception of research for school and completing assignments). The average child spends about 2 hours a night on homework and you should also be checking in with their teachers to see if they're making progress on their homework and sit down with your children and go over their assignments to make sure they understand it.
There has to be some kind of structured environment and again let them know that if chores and homework isnt completed that they will not be allowed to go out to play, watch tv, or use the computer. You have to have some kind of ground rules in place to let children know that actions carry consequences.
2007-03-14 16:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This Saturday afternoon, or maybe at dinner, you have a discussion.
You insist that each child pick a time that will be the Homework time for that child, and give them to understand you mean business.
If necessary, give them overnight to think about it and change their minds (let them change their minds later, for cause, but get a commitment for now).
Treat it as dinner time, in the sense that, you get a 15 minute warning, then a 10 minute warning, then 5. (That alerts them to get to a stopping place, get a drink and a snack, and go to the bathroom.)
At the designated time, take the mouse and use the Shut Down command, or the remote and Power button or whatever.
As I say, let them renegotiate their times, if they find they don't work for them, but they will have a time when they spend x amount of time on homework.
They get fair warnings as the time approaches, then that's it.
It's a pain for you, to have to do the warnings, but will show them you really mean it.
Over time, as they get used to the fact that this is how it is, and get used to the routine itself, you can leave the warnings up to them.
I say let them choose, so they are having some say, and, if there's a TV show they most love, they can schedule around it.
It will be h*ll at first, but be firm.
2007-03-14 22:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they get home give them a half an hour of free time along with a little snack or something, then after that there is no TV, and computer only for school work. Be the boss and be in charge if they refuse to do as they are asked start to punish them.
2007-03-14 16:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by hc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know why this should be an issue. YOU are the parent! They are the kids. That means that you are the one who is supposed to be in charge. Turn everything off, give them a light snack, then right straight to the homework. No TV, video games, PC until it's done!!! Period!!!
2007-03-14 16:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take everything away. they'll complain, even throw tantrums but to bad. it's your house, your rules. when they start doing what is expected of them they can earn time on the tv,computer,video games or whatever. don't back down. let them know whats going to happen and what is expected. they'll try to call your bluff so don't make the threat if you can't carry it out. don't fall for the hungry / thirsty trick. thats an old one. make sure they've had a snack and give them each a water bottle before they start their homework. beat them to the punch, so to speak. give it about a week. they'll figure out that you mean buisness.
2007-03-14 16:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull the TV, computer or whatever out and put it in a closet. They'll learn to do their homework first or see what it's like to live without for a while. Good luck and be tough.
2007-03-14 15:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy W 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
unplug the tv the pc and the video games take charge when they get home they get a snack and a drink then to the table for homework once its dont they can play til dinner after dinner they clean their room and lay out their school clothes for the next day .and they help with the dishes, from dinner. then its bath time teeth brushing and one last pee and off to bed
2007-03-14 16:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lock them in their room and throw away the key? ONLY KIDDING. But it sure sounds good sometimes, doesn't it?
I say you take everything away- restrict them from using the computer/tv/video games until their homework is done.
2007-03-14 16:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unplug the tv, computer, video games and you remove all of them from the house. this way they can't use them at all until they can learn to do their homework and housework before its play time.
2007-03-14 16:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋