My mother in law told my husband today that she had went out and bought a nice television to his ex-wife. There is no special occasion. I personally dont like my husband's ex because she treats me like I do not exist. We are also very unhappy with the way she neglects the kids. For some reason, this story about "mom buying the ex-wife the television" really got to me. I am so angry about that. Am I just over reacting?
2007-03-14 08:36:06 · 22 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She probably just bought it for the kids.
2007-03-14 08:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you aren't overreacting. She is his ex, not his current wife and the mother in law shouldn't be buying her gifts out of the blue and especially not if she is neglecting the kids. If it was her birthday or something it might be ok, but even still - a tv is kind of over the top. Your mother in law should be helping you guys out or spending the money on the kids, not the ex.
2007-03-14 08:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I didn't bother to read the other responses, so if this has already been covered, sorry.
No, you shouldn't be offended. Just because your husband divorced this woman doesn't mean the family can, or should, just disown her. A relationship was nourished during the time they were married. This happened with my brother. He divorced his wife, whom we'd all grown fond of, and then remarried. A lot of us stay in contact with the ex; we still love and accept the new wife, but aren't willing to sever ties with the old one.
It has nothing to do with you.
2007-03-14 09:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by dave_cooke1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when people divorce,the inlaws still maintain relationships with the exes and there's nothing wrong with that. I can understand your discomfort at how your husband's ex treats you but there is not too much you can do about it. If you have tried to be nice to the ex in the past and she still acts this way,then it's her loss and you do not have to bend over backwards for her kindness.
2007-03-14 09:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no right to, or reason for, questioning who your mother in law decides to buy a gift for.
If your husband was the one buying the gift for his ex... you might have a reason to say something.
Your MIL got to know your husband's ex while they were together. Your MIL is not obligated to quit liking his ex just because your husband divorced her.
So.. keep out of it.
2007-03-14 08:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not think of it as a big deal. She might have really bought the TV for the kids to watch I am presuming the kids with their mother. Hope that helps.
2007-03-14 08:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by BR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother in laws can really suck sometimes. She obviously still likes the ex. Does she treat you good? If not she could just be doing it to spite you.
2007-03-14 08:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she in any opposition along with your mom? Do you think of she'll be jealous while the toddler comes that she would be able to no longer be invited to spend time together with her grandson... in basic terms some issues to think of approximately. She sounds insecure, and that i wager it rather is because of the fact she's jealous of a few thing or somebody. could desire to that probable be it.
2016-10-02 03:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does she not have money? Is she the mother of his children? If so then I really wouldnt be angry at all. The problem between you and her is NOT your mother in laws problem, but I would expect my mother in law to be nice to me though
2007-03-14 08:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care?? I am very close to my ex's mom and step-mom and always will be. They can't get themselves to be friendly to the new gal because she is the one that broke up this 19 yr marriage. Don't worry about it and don't make a big fuss about it. You will just be causing more drama then there needs to be.
2007-03-14 08:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel the way you do. That's the nice thing about feelings, they are yours. I wouldn't however say anything to your mother-in-law, that could just turn sour. She has a right to spend her money as she pleases and it very well could be for the children. Don't let it get to you!!!
2007-03-14 08:40:32 · answer #11 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋