My two boys are on the cut off for sending to kindergarden. My 6 year old will be elgible this fall and my 5 year old will be also. My five year old is far more advanced than my 6 year old. My oldest had seizures when he was 6 months old... He is developing on schedule now....but should i hold my 5 year old out another year? I think he would benefit from being in school. I just don't know if they should go at the same time. Please help me!!!!!!!
2007-03-14 08:21:55 · 15 answers · asked by mom_of_3_awesome_kiddos 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Please be sure your 5 year old is ready - with that said, my son was MORE than ready and he started kindergarten 2 weeks after he turned 5 and had done fantastic in school.
Do not hold your 5 yr old back for your other son. I would suggest working with the school to have them in separate classes so they can have their "own" teacher and classmates.
If the 5 yr old does better at school it MAY be hard on your 6 yr old, but you never know. If your 6 yr old is hurt by this let him know that each person has something they can do better than someone else and he has not found his yet.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 09:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by g-lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a given that they will both benefit from being in school, but I can think of two contradicting schools of thought on this one. If you send them both at the same time, 1) they will be able to help each other, or 2) if the more "advanced" 5 year old shows up the 6 year old it could create more issues for him.
It might be more advantageous for them to be in different grades or maybe different classes so they won't have to feel they are competing with the other. Kids that age can be really cruel to each other, and I can kinda visualize other kids in the class saying things like "your brother is smarter than you."
2007-03-14 08:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should send them together. As a parent we're always thinking about educational development (what can they learn if this happens). The truth is that a child will do fine as long as his education is age appropriate. Even if that child is a little ahead or behind.
One very important thing that is often overlooked is the development of their individual identity. The best thing that you can do is to provide them with a little separation.
They are still going to be on the same sports teams, have the same friends but you will be allowing them to grow without being in their siblings shadow. Boys are by nature competitive (My 3 sons are 12, 9, 8 so I see this every day). If they are in the same class...one is always going to be the better athlete, one is always going to be smarter, one is always going to be "this and one is always going to be "that". The brothers shadow will always be there and at some level the other child will internalize that "I'm not as good as he is".
Let each find his own place. A child that is comfortable with "who he is" will always be well adjusted and happy
2007-03-14 09:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by rob d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
retired elem teacher here, 56 yrs old, I will differ in my opinion from the others. Here are some things to ponder, Is your 5 year old EMOTIONALLY READY and physically ready. Most summer baby boys do better when held out an extra year. Being emotionally ready and physically ready to sit still and all is the utmost important thing. I also would like to see these boys have their own identity, especially since it appears they could be in academic competition just naturally in school in the same grade, expected to be at the same point. I would definitely put the oldest one in and wait a year on the 5 year old. But .......... for the 5 year old, find a great other "school" for him, it depends on where you live, if you work, and all. I'd love to give you more suggestions. But I have very strong facts to support what I am saying if you wish to email me click on I love Jesus.
2007-03-14 08:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they were twins they would go at the same time. It shouldn't be a problem. Surely you should NOT hold the 5 year old back if he's ready to go If you think they shouldn't be in the same class, you can usually talk to the school administration and ask that they be separated into different classrooms..
2007-03-14 08:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 09:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by dickirson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send them together because one of them could be teased but if you really think it will benefit your youngest then why should you make him be in a class that might be a little slow for him? Then again, he could be just as smart as the other kids his age but not as smart as the older kids. You should probably talk to some of the teachers about this or let your youngest take an apptitude test or something.
2007-03-14 08:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sadie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they both can go then send them both. The won't know any difference. It will be cool that they are in the same grade and neither or them failed or was ahead.
Just like twins. It happens all the time. SD
2007-03-14 08:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're both ready send them both at the same time. There's no sense in holding one back because of age.
2007-03-14 08:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be good for both of them to go at the same time!
2007-03-14 08:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋