I am 24 years old and have had a crush on a guy who is 35 for quite a while now. We started talking and getting to know eachother and now all of a sudden everyone is saying that he's too old for me. I really like him and I know he really likes me but I'm worried that all the talk around town is going to ruin things for us. He has 2 boys of his own which are 13 and 9 and I have a son who is 3. We fit so well together and I've never been happier. What do we do? Do we give up or ignore all the comments? Please help!!!!
2007-03-14 08:14:27 · 29 answers · asked by very_proud_mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, go get your man! If you worry what the whole town will say, you'll never be happy and you'll never know how both of you will be together. I'm 41, but look 26. All my ex girlfriends from 1999 up to now has been 20 years younger than me. You can't rely on what others will say about your happinness with this man. I say...GO GET HIM GIRL!!!
2007-03-14 08:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by southpark392006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always go by how you feel. You said you are happier than you've ever been, so why would you want to ruin that simply because "other people" don't approve?
Sure there are some things to think about when you are dating someone older, such as kids, but since you both have kids already, you have already taken that step and don't need to worry about it.
This is what matters: are you in love with each other? If the answer is yes, then keep the relationship going despite any hardships or comments from others. It's none of their business. Keep at it, because, like in any relationship, you will have to face some struggles. Also, if someone really cares about you (i.e. friends and family), then they will care more about your happiness than the age of your partner.
2007-03-14 08:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, I really do but sometimes age IS more than a number. But I think that you should find someone else that is more aropund your age, b/c even if things are fine now, Ifeel that things will get more complicated as time passes. I understand that you two love each other but I think that this would be a wrong decision, and odn't you think that it's a little odd how you and your husband's age difference is the same as yours and his eldest son's? I mean don't you think it would be difficult for the kids to have to deal with that? I'm really sorry but I think you guys should go your separate wayz.
think about the complications but also follow your heart.
best of luck!!
2007-03-14 08:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by lovin' it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number and I have tested this theary. I am 38 and live a very active lifestyle. I keep hooking up with guys way younger than me as I get older they seem to be getting younger. It used to bother me, I felt icky, but now I don't care. I have dated guys my age and find they don't have the spunk that the younger guys do. If it feels good do it. The only thing that matters is that it makes you happy. Its not he age its the person. Nothing has to be forever when the reason for the union is fulfilled you will move on or move forward. Being attracted to someone is a beautiful feeling run with it.
2007-03-14 08:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by GhostBear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to look at the big picture as well. Is the maturity level really there and do you really think that he will be able to walk as fast as you in 15 years without you having to stop so that he can catch his breath. Also when you want to experience something that he has already experience or done don't you think he will start being a father figure instead of a boyfriend. you have nothing to offer him except young great sex and that is all he wants right now. been in that boat not a nice ride when feelings are involved.
2007-03-14 08:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it will be an issue at all yeah is 9 years older but you seem mature enough to handle a relationship plus you have a child too so you know about parenting as long as your desires for life are the same you will be fine im sure he is ready for a wife and someone to settle down with i can assume with a kid you arent really a club hopper tying to find yourself still if you want the same things then forget what the people around town are saying because those same people might be trying to get what you got think about it.
2007-03-14 08:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its also a three letter word. My rule with age is I would never be with a guy who is younger than me or a guy the same age as my father. I think an age diffrence of 5 years give or take is okay assuming that you are in your twenties. I think its also wrong for like 17 year old or under to date someone who is in their twenties. I also think its wrong for anyone under 18 to be dating in the first place. But that's just me.
2007-03-14 08:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Contesta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number to a certain extent. Just be careful though, at the age of 35 he may just be looking for a young one to get some urges taken care of. Never doubt the power or skill to lie, either.
2007-03-14 08:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say who cares what pwople think you two are adults and your old enough to make your own decisions. i say if you guys really care about eachother foreget everyone else. my mom is 39 and she is with a man who is only 27 and they have been together for almost 7 years. so it can all work out just dont give up jsut becasue others think its wrong ignore what they think ans listen to your heart. good luck!!
2007-03-14 08:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Bree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as ur both mature...it is just a number. You shouldn't worry about what people say. You said that you've never been happier so don't ruin it over something so insignificant.
2007-03-14 08:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋