I was serving. WE were having a homemade lentil veggie soup with fresh baked ciabatta bread, fresh fruit cut up into bite sized pieces (kiwi, bananas, strawberries and oranges) and juice or milk. She knew beforehand what we were having. She freaked out and said I was insane for feeding my kids like that, I told her she was welcome to look and find something she thought her kids would like better and she got super mad saying that it was my responsibility to make them something "edible," since I had invited them over to lunch. I told her no, as I was helping my kids get their meal ready that she could go ahead and make them sandwiches or something. She ended up cooking them mac and cheese with hotdogs in it.
I felt since she knew what I was having beforehand and accepted the invitation that I shouldn't have to put everything and everyone else on hold to cook her kids something else. Was I in the wrong?
2007-03-14 08:12:17 · 17 answers · asked by juniormintsrock 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Sounds like you're doing a good job feeding your kids. . . so just worry about that. You did the right thing, that's just rude. I think society today is so busy that a "good" meal is mac & cheese with hotdogs. Ewww. As a kid I always remember eating things that were good for me and kids today don't even know what fruit is. They live on Chef Boy Arde or however you spell it. Hmmm I wonder why our kids are having heart attacks at 18? The only thing I see in what you fed your kids was the oranges. Depending on how old your kids are and how many teeth they have you might need to peel them, oranges are really easy for kids to choke on. Just a hint the skins are hard to chew with little teeth FYI.
2007-03-14 08:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy, can I come to lunch? Sounds like you really know how to cook and eat fresh/right! Listen, if your friend knew what you were serving then she should have said to you nicely that she would need to decline because her children would not eat the food or ask if she could eat your prepaired meal and if you would mind her making something else for her children when she got there. Bottom line, she is your guest in your house and you are not responsible for her childrens taist in foods. Did you like the lunch you prepaired? If so, then it does not matter what your guest thinks, besides mac and cheese with hot dogs is loaded with nothing but bad for you food anyway so if she chooses to put that poison in her children then it is her business (not that eating things like that is bad all the time, but on a day to day basis these things cause obesity in children and adults along with other health problems down the line, its all about portion control). It seems like you have gone out of your way since she knew the menu and you offered her free reign over your kitchen to find something that her children would like. Offering her anything in your pantry is also something you did not have to do, but being a nice person I would have done the same myself. Do not stress yourself out over this one. If your friend does not have enough moral fiber to realize that what she did was completely unreasonable then maybe you need to consider where your friendship is headed. You should never be taken advantage of and you were on the verge of this. Its also obious that you feel bad about this but are also angry at the same time. Take a few soothing breaths and remember that you tried your best to be a good host, if it was not good enough for your guests then then it becomes their problem. Good luck.
2007-03-14 08:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely, unconditionally NOT WRONG. Your friend sounds rude and ungrateful. I'm surprised that you are still willing to call her a "friend".
First off, the lunch you prepared sounds absolutely delicious. It sounds like you are very knowledgeable, responsible and considerate when it comes to preparing healthy foods for yourself and your children.
Secondly, if your "friend" knew in advance what you were preparing, it was HER responsibility to either decline the invitation, or bring lunch for her own children. I'm not too impressed with her preparation of macaroni and hot dogs...that meal has zero nutritional value!
I have an 18-month old daughter and when ANYONE invites my husband and I over for a meal, it's my responsibility to bring the things that I know my child will eat. No matter where I go, I always have a bag packed with foods to offer to my child in the event that there is nothing appropriate to feed her.
I honestly think that your "friend" is completely out of line for not being gracious about your invitation as well as your menu choice. Instead of worrying about whether or not you were wrong to prepare the food that you did, I think you should be wondering if you want to be friends with someone who would criticize the decisions you make about your own children not to mention her selfish attitude in YOUR home.
2007-03-14 09:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by FormerGiGi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely in the right! How rude! If her children are picky eaters, she should have asked you nicely when the invitation was put forth if it was ok to provide her children with something different. It is not your fault at all that she doesn't feed her children a variety of foods. And she is not setting a good example for her children to see her react that way, how will they ever learn on their own that life is about more than mac and cheese and chicken nuggets?
Congrats to you for serving such a fine lunch.
My kids would have eaten every scrap and said thank you.
2007-03-14 08:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually she was in the wrong, and just plain rude to boot. When you accept a meal invitation, you eat what is served. Especially since she knew what you were having before hand, she should have fed her kids what you served. If her kids didn't get enough for lunch, then that would be her problem to solve after she left. I cannot believe that she made her children another lunch at your house!!! How pathetic!
2007-03-14 08:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by maddie1979 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If you invited her over for lunch and she agreed to come over she doesn't really have a right to complain especially since you told her beforehand what you were serving. If she didn't like it she and her children could have eaten lunch before they came over. She sounds ungrateful to me and like she isn't a good friend. You were definitely not in the wrong.
2007-03-14 08:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO you were not wrong. In fact, I think it was very nice of you to offer to let her make something else for her kids. She sounds as if she was just down right rude!! And what does this teach her children?? I know I always tell my kids when we go to someone else's house that they are to eat what is put in front of them and not complain. If they truly don't like something, they have to at least try it and again NOT COMPLAIN. I try to teach them that if someone was kind enough to invite you over and provide you with food-then you should be grateful!
2007-03-14 08:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy S 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
She knew what you were gonna serve before hand, so if she felt like her children weren't going to eat what you prepared, then she should have made sure to feed her kids before coming over, or else she could have brought them something else. It was VERY RUDE of her to expect you to fix "her" children something else to eat. Also it was in very foolish of her to have accepted an invitation and then act bitchy about it. She ought to be glad that someone thought enough of her hateful *** to invite her to anything!!!!
2007-03-14 08:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by buckskinbabydoll♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong. She live in a very compartmentalized world. She does not venture out much. Sad for her children. If you have ever thought of having a relationship with her, this should give you pause to reflect and rethink seriously, there is a trainwreck down the road.
2007-03-14 08:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend was very rude. She was invited to your home and offered a very healthy meal. She was rude to act that way. You wouldn't go to dinner at someone else's house and tell the hostess her meal wasn't "edible" to her face like that!
2007-03-14 08:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋