My frnd who had been avoiding for a long time and always used to say that she was busy. She remembers me only when she needs to talk to some1 abt her probs and when I want her to b there for me she was always BUSY. This made me feel used so I thought to avoid her so since 2 weeks, I have been avoiding her like I stopped texting her ( I used to text daily) and when she calls me I dont answer her call immediately either I text her later some excuse or I dont do anything at all and reply next day.
Now she told me that she missed me on a particular day and that she feels something is wrong with me.
It seems she has not understood yet. what should I do shall I continue avoiding her or is it a way of her to get me back. I was like a pet and doormat to her.
please help
2007-03-14 08:12:07 · 22 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep it cool. i like the way u are playing the game. 2 motre weeks and she will learn a lesson of her life. no need for explanations, if she has senses she will get it
2007-03-14 08:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by vfm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop for a minute and think about how much you value your relationship with her.
Do you know she wasn't busy? Has she really treated you badly? Maybe she has a problem/something troubling her that she feels she can't talk to you about. Either way if she is really a friend you should be able to tell her exactly how you feel. All friendships go through patches like this, don't throw it away. Speak to your friend and try and resolve this. Honesty, communication and respect are important in any relationship. Show her you are not a door mat.
Always remember to treat people the way you want to be treated.
Good friends are hard to find, and we all need friends x
2007-03-14 15:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by becks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd flat out tell her that you get really bored when she unloads on you like that. That's one way to avoid the problem. Tell her you don't mind listening every once in a while, but you don't want to hear uneccesary drama or silly problems. You'd be there for her if she really needed you though.
2007-03-14 15:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with some of my friends truly they are not good friends to be around the best thing to do is try to make new friends that will want to be around you anytime and there for you anytime i found one and thats all i need for now. iam not saying dont hang with the others but like if the one thats the true friend wants to hang out go with that one over the others you will feel happier and all. i know its hard but some friends are just friends to be friends and not to be a true friend if you know what i mean.best of luck
2007-03-14 15:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound like she was much of a friend if you were a pet and a door mat to her. decide how it felt not having her around for 2 weeks. did you miss her or was it a relief! if it was a relief slowly drop her. if you missed her and are willing to put up with her crap explain to her how she makes you feel. she probably doesnt realize she is using you. she may not change but it cant hurt to try.
2007-03-14 15:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by R L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are doing just what you should. If she acts if everything in the world is more important than you then you shouldn't bend over backwards to be with her when she has time for you. Friendship is a two way street and it is her turn to make the next move.
2007-03-14 15:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Diane A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to talk to her and tell her how she made you feel before, i sure she wasn't doing it on purpose. and if she knows that you feel this way she will make an effort to show you more attention. you don't need to end a friendship over a small misunderstanding. also, it could just be a part of her personality and if it is she should be your friend no matter what. but talk to her ASAP
2007-03-14 15:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by ya girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought u said ur plan is working?? Try telling her about ur problems now and see what happens. Just keep avoiding her and when u need someone to talk to talk to her and see if she is there for u.
2007-03-14 15:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jamal J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to ignore her but dont try to make it more than what it is. Let it be and always be extra nice when you do talk to her. This way she will realize what a good friend you are.
2007-03-14 15:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really very simple you know, if you are friends then tell her that her selfish behaviour is unacceptable. be ready with examples of times you've needed her and you felt let down. your plan is a childish plan at best and if you really want to stay friends then honesty is the best policy i'm afraid. if you dont want to then cut all contact.
2007-03-14 15:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋