my ex and i were friends after breaking up in mid aug. then after awhile he was asking me out again i refused becuz i knew something wasn't right..i could tell he was hiding something so i went in his facebook account and got all the answers i needed.. he was cheating on me way before we broke up and i was really shocked that I had invested 4 years in him for this.. How do i get over this pain?? Will he ever call to apologize for what he did? I told him everything I knew from his facebook account and he was STILL in denial. please help. :(
2007-03-14 08:09:17 · 10 answers · asked by Fashionista 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI, we're not in high school.. we're in our last year of college.
2007-03-14 08:17:17 · update #1
The pain will subside as time goes on. You have to move on and try to get past it. Get out wih friends or alone, start a hobby, anything to stay busy and keep him off your mind.
He cheated, just more reason to forget him.
An appology sounds nice but what would it be worth from him? HE isn't worth hearing an appology from. You invested 4 years already, don't invest another minute. Should he ever wish to appologize you should be so past him that you don't have the time to listen. Let him have his denial. It is so tempting to go over things with him and try to get an answer that will make sense and make things seem better but nothing will. The damage is done and nothing he says will change what happened. Be glad you know now and you are away from him.
Do not contact him, do not talk if he contacts you. You need to heal and move on. Anything he has to say won't really help your healing. (think about it....)
2007-03-14 08:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You obviously can't trust him. He most likely has been doing things that you don't know about. You need to not have anything to do with him until he apologizes. If he doesn't apologize then you should ignore him totally. Even if he apologizes if he goes back to the same pattern of lying and cheating on you you need to make a stand. The only thing we guys understand is being blunt. Be honest with how you feel. If he still is being a jerk then take him out of your life completely. Is it really worth putting up with that drama? I know it's hard, but sometimes some people are not worth your time. Think about it. Don't get caught up with endless drama. Some of my friends are. It's about as dumb as high school and mid school.
2007-03-14 15:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by jesus_lover1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not expect an apology from this guy. He sounds like a loser. Just be happy you got out of the relationship now. As for how do you get over the pain, well you have already started by typing in the question. Next, talk to some friends. Also, start looking for a new guy, hopefully one that isn't a cheating scumbag.
2007-03-14 15:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by lanemeyer4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sucks. Y'know if he's still denying it even after you confronted him with the evidence I wouldn't expect much in the way of an apology. At this point I don't think you two can ever be friends again, that was too big of a betrayal and you'd do better to just move on and find friends who aren't liars and who you don't have that type of history with. Cut him off completely and just try to distract yourself as much as you can by doing other things and hanging out with other friends. Good luck!
2007-03-14 15:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea he would call you if he really wants you back or misses you not being there for him and you giving him alot more love then any other girl did or he might just move on and you will find better then him and he might just get jealous and then he might call you asking for him back because he can't move on because he still loves you trust i went though the same stuff with my boyfriend only thing is i told him i would do any thing for him and i am not moving on because he is the only guy i wanted well talk some other time
2007-03-14 15:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the first big step. You dumped this bum. Just be glad you are on the outside of this relationship now. You'd feel a lot worse if you had made the discovery while you were still together.
2007-03-14 15:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take consolance in the fact that you got out of it when you did. Try your best not to let it bother you. Avoid him (or yell at him about it then avoid him), which ever will make you feel better. What ever you do don't worry about his feelings cuz he didn't worry about yours... Us guys can be real *******. You will get over it.
2007-03-14 15:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously this jerk is not worth wasting time on....dont worry u will get over this... it was only high school...theres a whole world of awesome guys out there for whom u will be the one and only... for now concentrate on you and go out and have some fun.. besides, you dont need a guy to be happy
2007-03-14 15:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by katalupi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont wait for his call at all even if he did just get over that guy he doesnt love anyone even himself he will lie in every word bc he is used to it dont waste your life crying on spilt milk and you will find someone who really deserves you
2007-03-14 15:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by oh no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M RELI SORRY HONEY,BUT IN THE LONG RUN YOU'RE GOING TO REALISE DAT UR EX ACTUALLY DID U A FAVOUR. AS 4 APOLOGIES CHEATERS NEVA APOLOGISE BECOZ THEY BELIEVE THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH WHAT THEY'RE DOING!!.I NO WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH,'FIRST I WANTED REVENGE BUT AFTER A WHILE I REALISED DAT WHAT MY EX DID ACTUALLY MADE ME STRONG BECOZ IT GAVE ME EXPERIENCE!!JUST KEEP UR HEAD UP HIGH & GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.WHN I USE TO GET UPSET I JUST WROTE IN IN MY JOURNAL.ONCE AGAIN CHEAR UP & REMEMBA DAT WAT GOES AROUND,COMES AROUND
2007-03-14 15:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by MAIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋