My boyfriend and I have been going out for at least 3 months.. he has this friend (a girl) he hangs out with after school with sometimes. Whenever him and I talk he always seems to mention her or say something about her when we aren't even on the subject about anyone else. I don't want to be selfish and say he can't have any friends that are girls, I figure thats mean on both mine and his part and I also feel I can't do anything about it since he's known her longer than me. She says that shes not really looking for relationships. Maybe its just me overreacting but I just don't seem to like it when he mentions her so much. I feel really bad because I feel like I'm being selfish but at the sametime I feel worse when he talks about her... like he thinks about her all the time or something... but like I said I could be overreacting but if anyone could help me out I need alittle advice. Thank you.
2007-03-14 08:04:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be VERY worried. He's at it.
2007-03-14 08:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you've known somebody for a long time i guess you'd say they develop a stronger bond, stronger than that of say somebody who they met much after , like you. But that isn't nessicarily true, I mean, he chose you didn't he, if he liked her as much as you think then wouldn't he of pursued her?
You cant help them being great friends, put yourself in his shoes, if you had a really good friend who was male, and your boyfriend didn't like it , you wouldn't want him to come between you and your friend.
If you dont like him talking about her, then just casually change the conversation. And arrange to hang out with him before he has a chance to arrange to hang out with her.
You've only been going out for 3 months and you shouldn't let this come between you. Though maybe keep an eye on that girl lol !
2007-03-14 08:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 of my 2 best friends is male, in fact we're such good friends we live together. His last girlf was pretty cool with the situation 'cos she said that if she didn't trust him then there was no point being with him.
My blokes all get told that their accepting our friendship is a condition of our dating.
But I am just the same as your bloke, I almost can't have a converstaion without talking about him. Just because so many of the incidents I want to talk about is involving him.
Baisically I think I'm trying to say that I think you're over reacting.
2007-03-14 13:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your no longer overreacting because of the fact it in all probability is the comparable woman yet you're pissing your guy off. remember this Sarah is a slutty as woman and he needs you over her any day via this very actuality. tell him actual (no longer loopy b*tchly) and make him a deal. Say that next time if he's rather no longer involved have the girl supply him her extensive form and then enable you delete it off his telephone so as which you're feeling greater effective. yet instead write that girls extensive form down and then supply it out to a gaggle of solicitors and make contact with her and tell her to stay the hell away out of your guy or her call would be on each bathing room stall and on each solicitors record!
2016-10-02 03:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all well done for being adult about it and recognising that it is an issue for you.
It is difficult but I would not in your situation refrain from saying something because the longer you let it go on without you saying a word will make it fester in your own mind and that might ruin what is otherwise a good relationship for you.
You need to say something to your boyfriend - nothing too heavy - just alert him to the fact that it bothers you some...
I wish you well.
2007-03-14 08:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually when someone talks or thinks about someone all the time they have feelings for them. Yeah Id be concerned, if he cant have a conversation without mentioning her then hes got it bad. Tell him that you think he has feeling for her and that you should see other ppl. If he agrees youve got your answer, if he says no were just friends, ask why he cant have a conversation without mentioning her with the conversation has nothing to do with her. If he wants to stay together tell him that your over hearing about this girl all the time. If she has no place in the conversation not to bring her into it.
2007-03-14 08:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one of my closest male Friends had a problem with his girlfriend. she told him to stop seeing me because she felt jealous of our relationship.he told her no because i was a good Friend and we had been friends for years. i was no threat to her, i didn't want her man but she couldn't see it. i always thought well isn't it obvious that we have both been single together and still not had that sort of a relationship. but she didn't look at it like that. anyway they finished after a while anda few months later he has started going out with another girl,, she is nice and he made a point of us meeting up. if you like this bloke and you can deal with the whole close female friend then meet her,, I'm sure she wont be to much of a threat to you once you have. also men do like to make you feel jealous so maybe he is telling you a few things about her so you will feel threatened.. dont show him that this girl bothers you. but i do suggest meeting her, you never know you may like her and get on well.
2007-03-14 08:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by jem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be worryed, cause it's alright for a guy that has a girlfriend, and have girls just as friend's, but not to hang out with them, while a guy has a girlfriend, you need to talk to your bf, and tell him that you are worryed, about them being friends.
2007-03-14 08:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him - and judge the response
He may agree to love you only - OK
Or it is over - there are plenty more fish in the sea!
2007-03-14 08:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u might be over reacting. start talking about your guy friends if it really bothers you. he'll stop then
2007-03-14 08:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋