I love this girl so much that I don't have any attention for anyone else when I see her but she is in relationship with this guy. I don't know where to start. Your help is appreciated.
Thanks,
2007-03-14 07:47:08 · 31 answers · asked by BB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she's with a guy you just need to forget it. At least for now. If you think you can handle it, you can be her friend, but it's just wrong to get into the middle of someone else's relationship. If you can find a way to distract yourself, wait... maybe eventually she'll be single again. But don't close your eyes, there are other wonderful girls out there too!
2007-03-14 07:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a really strong word for a person you are not in a relationship with. You didn't say if you have ever dated her, but if you haven't, trust me, until you have, don't go telling anyone you love her. As a female i will tell you that how we treat people outside of our relationship can be different than how we treat someone we are in a relationship with. My boyfriend is lazy and does not pay much attention to me, yet he is a hard worker and will drop anything to help a friend or family member, including plans with me. He and i have been together for two years, and we live together, he tells me he loves me, every once in a while, but not often. Those words should really be guarded until you are in a relationship, and even then they should not be given away, but earned.
she might be really mean to her boyfriend. You do sound like you have a crush, but you also sound shy. If this is true, you unfortunately will most likely just have to wait your turn. If she and her boyfriend break up then you can take a chance, but don't use the word love, you might scare her off. For now be a good friend and pay attention to her, get to know her, and be sure to that she is the person you think she is. In time if it is meant to be it will happen. if you break her and this guy up, it may not be something that turns out in your favor. If you are there for her when he isn't, she may figure out that she has feelingsfor you. then things will work out on their own, but if you cause trouble in her present relationship, she may hate you afterwards.
2007-03-14 14:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by casady96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The questions are first are you sure you love her? Could it be lust that you have for her? Is it that you can tell that she is unhappy in her previous relationship? If you see that she is happy in the relationship that she is in now, I suggest that you let her continue her relationship. Telling her such a thing at this time when she is in a relationship can and most likely confuse you two friendship. She may even start to feel uncomfortable you.
Do you feel that she will leave her current boyfriend for you if you tell her you love her? If you do give it a shot; but if you know she is happy and settled with this guy you should continue to be her friend and wait for her pieces to start falling so that you can be there to help her pick them up. Besides you a friend that she will never forget about.So if you play your cards right this lady will be your one day.
Be patient. You will get what you want if you look for whats going on in front of you.
2007-03-14 15:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lotoya S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly think that she cares for you in the same way, then you should tell her. If you're not sure then you shouldn't risk ruining her relationship with the other guy--not to mention the relationship that you two have!!! If you decide that you are going to tell her, then you should tell her in person. Just say that you really like her and you just wanted her to know how you feel about her; that way the ball is in her court, and you've done all you can without seeming too crazy or overbearing.
2007-03-14 14:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by SaraBeara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a hard thing to hide. Unless you are very, very good at hiding your feelings, she probably already knows how you feel.
You can try catching her eyes, holding them for a little bit longer than is friendly and smiling. Let her catch you staring at her sometimes. Be where she is but don't make her feel like you are stalking her.
And finally, make sure you actually love her and not just want her because she is unavailable. Be ready to accept that if she wants to stay with her current boyfriend you need to backoff and let it go. Nothing worse than a needy reject.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 14:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be a home wrecker! If she's happy, you have to be happy for her. If you suspect that she's not serious about the relationship, toss a hint that you'd like to take her out sometime... don't put your heart on the line until you've got her full attention and a little reciprocal affection...
2007-03-14 14:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kendy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well unless you went out, dont tell her you love her yet, that will come off rather creepy. Wait until that relationship is over to do something about it, maybe if he makes her sad you can swoop in and make her feel better, make her realize that you really do care for her and oyu will be there, my advice is NOT to do anything until her relationship is over with that guy.
2007-03-14 14:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by ThisSongsForYou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your going through and best thing to do is stay away...all your doing is setting your self up for trouble if you try to go after her...either you hurt yourself, or maybe he tries to hurt you for goin after his woman. IF you really think she is worth it then you better move fast and talk with her, the longer you wait the more time she has to fall in love with other guy.
Of course if the relationship is looking kinda doomed, be patient and let it fall out then approach her
2007-03-14 14:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Xander R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's already in a relationship, then DON'T tell her you love her!
Be a friend to her, and when the opportunity comes (if ever), then ask her out, date her for a while, THEN tell her you love her!
Nothing scares away a lady faster than a needy guy.
Best wishes!
2007-03-14 14:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know, I don't wanna tell you, you gonna be fail or in the opposite make you hopeful. every thing is possible so you must be ready for any situation.first you must be relaxed but ready.don't be hopeless .be sure you gonna do your best. find her lonely. if you couldn't, go and tell her that I wanna tell you some thing alone.after that you must ready the best situation for her. you must start with your situation when you saw her. at the end you must tell her that girl was her. Do you understand what I said.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-14 15:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋