All I had was a a case of cds(about 100)and dvds we used to watch 2gether and a rainbow steel pocket knife of his and she sold them for crack. I'm so upset and angry.She comes and takes a bath and goes back out (she a prostitute as well,I saw an imprint of some cds in her purse and I take a look and it's one of the ones my boyfriend gave me before his death, I know it's mine cuzit has my name and a note he wrote written on it. I took it out and ran and told my aunt she asked if she took my cds she lied and said lied and said no.I'm so hurt cuz when he was living she was jealous cuz he was a drug dealer (he was changin his life), and he had taken care of me and paid my way threw school more than she even has done in my entire life.It gets worst.As soon as I got the one cd back out i feel asleep and broke it!I dont know what's going on but I have the worst of luck and all I wanted to do was cherish his memories, and she stole them..and the one I did get,broke!Plz offer encouragement.
2007-03-14 07:43:59 · 15 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get your mom some help. Even if it means calling to police. Sometimes, a person needs to hit rock bottom before coming to grips with reality. For the good of you both, she needs to get clean.
2007-03-14 07:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The encouragement I can offer is this: as memories go, these DVDs are easily replaced. You can buy another DVD just like the one you described but the memory (the note he wrote) will be missing. Get past that, buy a copy of the DVD and you can watch it and think of him. I'm sorry your mother is the way she is and that you have been with such unsavory people in your life. You don't have to be a prostitute or a thief or a drug dealer, I hope you know that. Those are all bad things to be. You can cherish his memory if he was a good person and you can change your luck by doing positive things. Try not to get into situations where you are desperate - drugs and prostitution are endless cycles of desperation. Good luck!
2007-03-22 06:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're coming from. My mom is the same way (yeah, all of it, and an alcoholic) She has nothing from when me or my 5 sisters were young. (She didn't have much anyway, since she didn't raise us, but you would think she would want to keep what she did) She's been in & out of my life since I can remember. I want to help her, but at the same time I want to forget her. I can't do either, and it's the most frustrating thing. The only thing I can do is watch her make her mistakes. I cannot live her life for her. It's hard, but she's nothing like a mother should be, and I don't want my 2 kids to see her like she is. She's taken me with her to buy drugs, left me stuck in a motel room while she "went out" and more. (I was 16 and staying with her at the time) All I can tell you is be strong, keep your distance (yes, it's hard) and keep your valuables hidden or at a friends that you trust. My mother has sold my things before, too, and it's not only about what you lost, it's about her being your mother. It won't last forever and who knows? Maybe she'll change one day. (My mom hasn't though, and I'm 22) Until then, I would treat her less as a "mom" and more like the person she really is-a thief and a liar. Harsh, but true. The most valuable memories aren't things you can touch, they're what's in your mind and your heart. Good luck. You're not alone.
2007-03-21 14:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by dmarie2101 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, Hon, the most important thing about someone is the memories, which she can never steal away from you. I know it hurts to even think about having someone who is supposed to care about you more than anyone do something like that to you. I would just try to remember that it was a material thing and that you do still have something, even if it is a broken CD. It may help to burn the songs that were on the CD and make a replica of it. I know it's not the same, but it could help. And when you're 18 and don't have to deal with her, then don't. A lot of people think that children should always respect their parents, no matter how crappy of a parent they are. But unless they are in the situation that you're in, it makes it difficult to understand. I didn't have bad parents at all, but I don't believe that a child who is beaten by it's parents, for example, has ANY obligation to be respectful of them, or to make room for them in a new life they have made for themselves. No, your mother didn't beat you, but if I were you and I had a choice between the stuff she took and her trying to beat me, I'd probably go with her trying to beat me as opposed to the taking of your stuff that meant so much to you. I'd write her out of my life as soon as possible, and like I said, try to make your own replica of that CD or anything else that you can try to make similar to what she took. Trust me, I KNOW it's not the same. But it may help you deal with some of your feelings to be able to listen to some of the songs that were on there and to remember that your BF liked those songs. Good luck and I'm sorry :-(
2007-03-14 08:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you don't need CD's or DVD'd to remind you of the Love and memories you share with your boyfriend. You carry those in your heart. Your mom is a sick person and she needs help. Things will get better. Just give them the opportunity. Much Love.
2007-03-22 06:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by steppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you lost the material things that brought back good memories of your deceased boyfriend, but no one can erase the memories in your head and those are the most important ones! Jesus loves you and will help you make the right choices to have a better life if you're willing to let Him.
2007-03-14 08:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wow,
I hope you never go through any of this drama. Finish school get a good job, get the heck out....and really make your boyfriend memories last a lifetime.
2007-03-22 07:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a dangerous situation. You need to go to the department of family and children services and tell them that you need to go into foster care. Your mother due to her crack habit is not able to provide a stable home for you and who knows what one of clients is likely to do to you. Get out and get into a stable environment.
2007-03-22 04:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mum is not treating you well, i,m sure you must hate her right now. but please at the end of the day she is still your mum so while you hate her some distant part of you must still love her somewhere deep inside you. try to forgive your mum for what she has done and try to get her some help. if she does not get the help she needs you may be mourning your mum soon too.a good place to start would be with you doctor explain what has happened he will be able to help. get in touch with drug line i enclose a link to get them on line .and good luck www.drugs.indiana.edu/slang/home.html
2007-03-21 09:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by fushia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most precious memories you have can never be stolen by anyone. They are in your heart and in your head.. I feel bad for you for your loss and no one to help comfort you. Try to remember good days and good things. And always remember, you have to have the really bad days to appreciate the really good ones. Good luck, and I hope more good things start happening for you.....
2007-03-14 07:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋